Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Hello! As I’ve noted previously, the main challenge for my wife and me during our chastity path has been dealing with sex itself. We absolutely adore being intimate! It’s that simple! However, balancing this while craving orgasm denial hasn’t been easy… I’m not saying I dislike sleeping with her… But refraining from ejaculating is REALLY tough!!!!! My wife really wants to participate in our chastity adventure and has been INCREDIBLY supportive! She can deny me whenever she chooses yet allows my release under specific conditions!!! The mechanics of it all are just a bit awkward… I often had to withdraw, afraid I’d cum too early. Last night during intercourse, that’s exactly what happened!!! Although I pulled out, the timing was slightly off and I ended up ejaculating without permission… She enjoys oral sex but prefers penetration more than mouth play alone. She feels she needs something ‘bigger’ than just my tongue… So… last night we tried a strapon for the first time. I wore the cage with a harness holding a Crystal Jellies six (6) inch dildo as shown here: It’s slightly longer than me and certainly wider. My wife was somewhat nervous, but after some tender foreplay and plenty of lubricant, she finally gave the signal that she was ready… WOW! We both found it an incredible sensation!!!! She climaxed twice from movements she usually doesn’t associate with orgasm. She’s mostly a ‘grinder’ type, but last night she craved more intensity and speed… And it REALLY worked for her! From my perspective, I felt SOOOOOO much closer to her than ever before… I obviously didn’t feel physical pleasure myself, but I was hyper-aware of my wife’s responses. I could sense when the dildo wasn’t working for her and when she wanted more. By not dealing with any physical sensation on my end, I was fully focused on her enjoyment… And THAT was wonderful for me!!!! I no longer had to worry about stopping suddenly or pulling out at a moment that disrupted her pleasure… thus slightly ruining it… As she moved and moaned beneath me, I fell deeper in love… feeling closer physically than ever before. I also realized a long-held dream: giving my wife complete satisfaction without taking any for myself… It was truly a brilliant experience! My buzz hasn’t faded (while my wife sleeps peacefully of course!!!) Afterward, my wife mentioned she loved it once she stopped focusing on the fact that it wasn’t me… And joked that I might have a part-time job now!!!! She still wants her ‘natural’ version without the dildo and will continue to control when I release. But perhaps my dream of long-term lockup is becoming real, as we’ve found a way to keep my wife sexually fulfilled without using my penis!! I hope this arrangement remains beneficial for both of us for a very long time!!!! With warmest regards. J.