This evening I told my wife that being in chastity has helped me control my rougher speech, become more mindful of her needs, and seek physical closeness without it always turning into sex. She knows I am dedicated to staying locked up. It feels great having skin-to-skin contact with her without my pesky penis interfering. I’ve come to love the denial side too; now that I’m released, I only want those “ruined” type climaxes. In just five weeks, it has brought back some of the fire we had in our early days. I never realized there were so many perks to denying myself an orgasm.
I wear my device around the clock, removing it once daily for a quick wash before snapping it right back on. My new motto is “Happy wife, happy life.” It’s surprising how long—almost 34 years—it took me to realize this.
I often wonder what our friends would think if they discovered we’re doing this. I picture most seeing it as some kind of oddity. Now I’m curious if any of the men I know are secretly wearing a device just like me.
Do experienced wearers here feel their behavior has changed for good? If so, have you tested whether your habits return to normal when unlocked? Over the weekend I went without my lock and slipped back into old patterns pretty fast.
Apologies for the stream of consciousness. I’m thankful this forum is here because besides my wife, there’s no one else to talk about this with us. We’ve seen a marriage counselor before, and while I shared some of my sexual fantasies with her, that was prior to finding male chastity.
