I find it fascinating how much attention is given to the benefits of chastity play. For us, these devices are essentially tools that allow her to take charge.
That said, while I really value what this practice has done for our bond, my experience fluctuates between good and bad days. Basically, being locked up isn’t always something I love. It serves as both discipline within our dynamic and a form of punishment. I don’t stay in the cage around the clock because I don’t want to; she decides when it’s time, but knowing the threat is there has improved my behavior significantly.
My main point is that being locked out can feel somewhat discouraging on certain days. Before we started this journey, she admits she used to yield to me more often, leading to sex happening mostly according to my schedule. Now, her desire drives our intimacy. When her needs don’t align with mine, some days are indeed difficult. So, it’s not all smooth sailing, even though the overall result is a marked improvement in how we communicate and relate to each other.
Am I alone in this? Do you also have those good and bad moments when struggling against being confined and denied? I often tell her that “feeling hormonal” describes it well. My strategy for handling these fluctuations is to stay occupied—working out, focusing on tasks, etc. How do the rest of you manage the emotional ups and downs while your partner controls your sex drive, especially on days when your desire just isn’t there?