Hello! I’ve popped in with a few scattered posts here and there, while mostly lurking over the past year. As I’ve dug deeper into the world of chastity within marriage, fine-tuning what I want my path to look like, I’m becoming increasingly sure this is right for me. Now I’m building up the courage to tell my SO, only to hit a snag—either she brushes it aside before we even get there, or an orgasm occurs, which usually throws off my chastity plans for several days. But that desire isn’t going anywhere.
So, getting ready for this ‘Journey’ I hope to take, I’ve been doing some solo prep work, much like planning a long cruise. First up is self-denial; I’m learning what drives me along the way. We haven’t had much chance for fun lately, so I’m currently on day 20 since my last ruined orgasm (self-inflicted) and day 24 since my proper one with my SO.
What I’ve found interesting—especially to myself—is that life is clearly enjoyable right now. But more importantly, I realize how cyclical my experience is. Just as women can predict certain monthly events, so too can I forecast specific patterns after an orgasm.
The most fascinating period for me seems to be around Day 12: the housework bug bites hard. I become a machine, unable to do enough to get the place in order. It’s incredibly predictable. This is also when I’m most likely to stray—meaning I take matters into my own hands. I have willpower and can resist that urge for a while, but it gets tricky, especially at night.
The second step was buying the cb6ks. The fit feels mostly settled; I can wear them for long stretches without issue. Nighttime is where I struggle with pain, so 22 hours has been my longest stretch before needing to remove it. This isn’t really a fitting discussion thread, but let’s just say: last night I dropped down a ring size before bed—a mistake. Now I’m back up a size and feel so comfortable that I often forget the device is even there. Just need to find the perfect setup for sleeping through the whole night.
The third step is both the hardest and most crucial. Anyone reading this might wonder how I’ve prepared my traveling companion for this journey, or how to present it as something she’ll consider joining, perhaps even enjoying. Progress has been slow, honestly. After chatting briefly with others here, I gathered enough material to see if there was a good resource I could give her to read and explain this ‘oddity’ of mine. But knowing her well, I realized reading might not be the best approach; it needs to be spoken aloud first. So I decided to start very gently.
We were just about to make love when I told her I didn’t want an orgasm. The timing wasn’t ideal, and I struggled to give a clear explanation, probably sounding like a bit of a fool. She laughed, joking that maybe I need a therapist (fair enough, given how awkwardly I presented it—it was amusing). Needless to say, that encounter ended without denial, as did the subsequent attempts where I tried to deny myself after she had finished. It’s clear to her that if I don’t come, it’s a big negative for us—and addressing this is what I need to do.
That brings me to my current point in this journey. Hopefully more posts will follow as I carefully try to weave chastity into our shared life. Watch this space (I hope).