“This is a ‘gentle’ intro to chastity for my partner to read through. I want him to become my key holder, but his current interest in chastity is only lukewarm. His reaction to our first chats about it was, “That’s just weird.” My goal was to write a simple, friendly story that presents chastity as thoroughly as possible within ten minutes. It mirrors our gay relationship, my fantasies and desires, plus the most basic concepts of chastity without scaring him off with erotic kink that might be too extreme for him. We’ve discussed this before, but over such a long time and in bits and pieces that I’m unsure what he truly remembers or understands. So here is everything gathered into one story that empathizes with the surprise and initial discomfort of a new key holder receiving an invitation to lock up and hold his key from his partner. A reader who holds keys should finish feeling they have enough basis to understand some dynamics well enough to start teasing and denying confidently.
If you’ve read this far, maybe keep going to the end. Please point out any fatal flaws, and feel free to suggest anything that might improve the pitch. If you like the story, let me know; if you want to use it for your own purposes, go ahead!
LETʼS GO FOR THREE MONTHS THIS TIME I called my good friend Rex and his partner Eric to propose we all get together for dinner one evening soon. Rex answered without hesitation: if I brought wine, he’d be happy to cook. I was eager to spend an evening with them. I’ve known Rex since before he met Eric more than ten years ago, and they were both good friends. We are very comfortable together. It had been several months since our last dinner, so there would certainly be interesting conversation – especially now that I knew their little secret.
The Little Secret Rex confided in me over beers one evening a while back: Eric introduced him to adding chastity into their sex life. One night after undressing for bed, he found Eric wearing a device he had just bought. “Eric asked me to take the key and tease him and deny him of an orgasm until we both couldn’t stand it anymore before being unlocked.” Things got awkward, and I was dumbfounded. I remember thinking, ‘That’s KINKY – Oh-My-God!’
‘I was really surprised,’ Rex continued after a swallow. “I had never seen a chastity device, and initially, I was turned off by it—it means it was weird… I worried about why this came up suddenly where it might lead. We were having enjoyable sex for me, but Eric obviously wanted to add fantasy play. He got really turned on wearing the device. It was so new to me that frankly didn’t know what to make of it, and surely didn’t know what I should do.
‘At first,’ Eric said ‘it was just one time for a few hours as a little game to spice up our evening sex.’” Rex went on explaining. “Then Eric wore it again nights later; I have to admit enjoying something about the new game when unlocking him the second night. Sometimes, Eric has trouble maintaining an erection. He usually goes soft before I can get used to his thick cock in my ass—it’s disappointing for us both. But that night after I unlocked the device, he was as hard as a rock and stayed firm until coming inside me.
“And then weeks later when I got home from work, Eric was wearing the chastity device. I think I said: ‘You are going to wear this thing another day or two before I unlock it—maybe Friday night could get steamy.’ On our sex that Friday was memorable. Eric almost trembled with anticip
“…ation when I unlocked him. My come splattered the headboard, and Eric was so thrilled that night he nearly leaped off the bed during his climax. It felt passionate yet enjoyable. Before we went to sleep, Eric declared he wanted to keep wearing his chastity device permanently. He explained that ‘I would hold both keys, being the sole person ever to remove it, and I should only take it out when I choose – meaning his cock was no longer entirely his own but fully mine for me to use as I wish.’ I warned him to “be careful what you wish for.” We settled on a nine-month trial period to gauge our feelings before committing further. I told Eric to ‘get used to the device now, because once your official nine months begin, there will be no turning back…’ And that marks the beginning of this whole chastity journey.”
I became even more curious about the secret new sex life shared between my two friends. I thought I knew Rex and Eric inside out, but clearly, I didn’t have the full picture. I had never seen a chastity device before; it hadn’t come up in conversation previously. I was certain no one I knew actually wore one – until now. Chastity seemed like bondage – yes, “KINKY” described it well. Since I knew little about chastity, I asked Rex, “What do you do? I mean, what is your role in all of this if the point is that Eric doesn’t come?”
The Three-Legged Stool and One Simple Rule
Rex replied that he was the key holder with the key to Eric’s chastity device. He said he had learned his new chastity role through trial and error, noting that for about eight months now he has been in complete control of Eric’s orgasms. “Chastity is a three-legged stool supported by orgasm control, teasing, and denial. I manage when Eric can have an orgasm by locking the device to make it impossible, then unlocking it when I feel his anticipation builds so much that he cannot wait another moment.”
Over our second round of beers, Rex continued, “Teasing and denial is my constant challenge. I offer Eric a sexual carrot or stick so he gets just slightly excited – just a little horny. When his excitement fades into frustration, I tease him again. I try to keep that next orgasm just out of reach until denying it further would cause resentment. Sometimes I lack the time or presence of mind to tease and deny him often enough. I don’t want Eric to feel ignored, so I must work harder at this; if he ever feels neglected, well, his experience won’t be very fun. Although, I think I improve daily. It demands creativity and finesse on my part.”
“The most sexually frustrating aspect for Eric is that he isn’t allowed to stimulate or masturbate himself – the chastity device is essential here. He can touch his cock only through the gaps in the device unless I unlock it. We really have just one rule: I am the only one who may touch his cock and make him orgasm. This keeps his sexual focus on me, making me the primary subject of his fantasies. In this way, my role to tease and deny him becomes more powerful and effective.”
“I’ve been curious for years about whom Eric puts in his fantasies – whether when he was masturbating or I was giving him a blowjob – while aroused and close to climaxing. Perhaps Mario or another old lover – maybe even a sexy movie star. But now, I believe Eric fantasizes about me.”
Rex took another swallow of beer and explained that although he felt uncomfortable at first, he now simply assumes ownership of Eric’s cock and balls. “That was clearly what Eric wanted when he gave me the key,” Rex said. He mentioned trimming Eric’s pubic hair weekly to keep “his new cock and balls tidy.” And despite Eric’s objections, Rex even shaves his anus silky smooth. I am astonished
discovering something I hadn’t realized about two of my closest friends. Rex spoke even more personally, mentioning that he felt their sex life was slightly more enjoyable, diverse, and fulfilling for him now that chastity is part of the picture than it had been in his memory. “Eric really enjoys bringing me to climax while he’s locked up in his device. He becomes more physically engaged and sexually inventive when he wears it. We’ve even added a strap-on cock to our collection for Eric to use on me, though we haven’t tested that out yet. Our sex life is excellent. It’s thrilling for both of us—definitely different from before. I was content with things previously, but it seems Eric had wanted something more and distinct for quite some time. He looked visibly awkward the first time he presented his device to me—he must have been pondering this idea for years.” Rex reflected after taking a hearty sip of beer. “I’m pleased we’re exploring his fantasy together. I recall thinking back then, ‘if this is what Eric says will make him happy, then I’ll give it a go.’ I’m enjoying it far more than expected,” Rex noted. “However, everything is still fresh to us, and I do wonder slightly about the future when Eric’s device becomes just another routine element in our lives. Perhaps that won’t be an issue.”
As we finished our beers, Rex concluded his update on ‘Chaste Eric’ and this new layer of chastity in their relationship: “Eric believes he has discovered a way to show his love, commitment, and devotion by giving me full and exclusive ownership of his cock and control over our intimacy. He sees the device as somewhat akin to a wedding ring. In my view, the core of Eric’s experience is this: when I know he is eager to please me with his cock—when both his excitement and anticipation for his next release are high—I will unlock him, allowing him to enjoy sex much more than before—and he’ll have that superior experience consistently. With the device locked around his cock, he knows he gets quality time if I handle things well. That is what he truly desires—quality time—even if it means fewer orgasms overall. He asked me to help achieve this by handing over the key and becoming his keeper.”
Dinner and a Surprise When I stopped by Rex and Eric’s house for dinner with wine, Eric greeted me at the door completely bare except for the chastity device encasing his cock. I gave him a quick, slightly awkward ‘hello’ kiss while Rex explained from the kitchen, “I thought you’d want to see some of this firsthand after hearing about us.”
I asked Eric, “How long have you been wearing that thing?” While speaking, I tried to figure out exactly how it was attached and locked in place—trying to get a good view without being too obvious, though not succeeding entirely. I hoped he wasn’t feeling too self-conscious.
“I put it on for the first time about ten months ago,” he replied. “It took a while to adjust to wearing this device. Now, I wear it continuously around the clock until Rex unlocks it with his key.” To emphasize his role, Rex walked over from the kitchen, withdrew the key from his pocket, showed it off formally, and touched Eric’s device to demonstrate how he could unlock him. Eric smiled widely and stepped closer as Rex returned the key to his pocket. “Aside from about half an hour once a week when we shower together—he scrubs me down thoroughly and trims my hair—I’ve been wearing this chastity device for a solid month since my last orgasm.”
“What do you do if you really need to get unlocked in an emergency?” I asked. “I keep an emergency key in a special envelope in my wallet. If Rex notices the envelope has been opened, he’ll know I cheated…”
“ʼs there just in case. If I am wearing pants, I have my key.” “I havenʼt had an orgasm for almost a month now.” Eric reiterated. “Can you believe it? After about the second week, I am leaking pre-come off and on all day, and by the third week I am making a bit of a mess on the bed sheets at night.” Rex went on to explain that early on Eric really whined and complained that he wanted to come, but that he had been firm and said “No” and denied Eric an orgasm “until I thought he would burst. In the beginning, I would unlock Eric’s chastity device and bring him to orgasm after a few days. Then I started gradually spacing his orgasms out over longer periods of time. I let two months pass until Ericʼs last orgasm, and we are getting close to the middle of our second two-month cycle right now. I can tell that Eric is starting to get a little bit anxious about his next orgasm. Aren’t you, Eric?” “I can’t wait to come – we could have sex tonight, and you could let me come early!” Eric blurted, almost shouting with his enthusiasm. “Really? That long?” I asked. How can anyone go for eight weeks without an orgasm, much less four weeks? EIGHT WEEKS… I would burst for sure before my second week. “This chastity device that I’m wearing now makes an erection impossible for me. We started experimenting to see how long I could go without ejaculating. After about 40 days, I had a wet dream even though I wore my cock cage in bed. Now, we know my endurance. About five months ago, Rex started to massage my prostate about a month after each orgasm so that I wouldnʼt come in my sleep – it’s called prostate milking.” Eric sounded like an authority. “Prostate milking drains a person’s prostatic fluid without an orgasm. Itʼs very effective.” Rex said, “Some couples donʼt do prostate milking at all because the period of time between orgasms is relatively short or because there is simply no interest in doing this. Some couples do prostate massage with the chastity device still locked. We don’t use ropes or handcuffs during milking or when Eric is unlocked, but some couples interested in bondage do. Eric enjoys the prostate massage, and he cooperates without a fuss or a struggle that some other couples might face. Some couples use some extreme restraints and sensory deprivation – handcuffs and blindfolds – we think that is just weirdly kinky… Each to their own.” “The last time Rex milked me, I remember saying, ʻRex, please grab my cock. Please. I have to come – right now!ʼ Remember that, Rex? You had removed the cock cage, and I was so hard. And you said, ʻYou know how we do this. You can’t touch your cock, and I won’t touch your cock until I see a lot more pre-come.ʼ” Eric was clearly excited recounting his experience. “Rex was massaging my prostate with one hand, and then after a while he placed a few fingers of his other hand under my cock and stroked it slowly along the bottom. That made me so horny – I really wanted to come.” “And I said ʻNoʼ and didnʼt let you. You were so excited you couldnʼt stay still,” Rex chuckled. The Game of Tease and Deny I followed Rex to the den to talk while Eric dressed for dinner. “Milking keeps Eric healthy, and it helps me to stop Eric from having wet dreams. If he ejaculates without me, he will begin to lose the direct association between his orgasms and me that I am trying to maintain. I like to touch Eric’s cock when it is hard and I want him to feel me touch him like that. That gentle stroking of his cock is a powerful way for me to tease Eric, and it makes him really frustrated. The only person he wants to touch him after I have massaged his prostate is me – to pick up where I left off and finish with his orgasm, but I donʼt.” “Between orgasms, Eric is as horny as hell, and he genuinely enjoys the sexual tension he feels. He says that the incredible orgasm he has when I finally make him come is worth all the waiting. For us, this is like an extended period of sexual foreplay – itʼs the anticipation th
“The anticipation Eric builds up inside his head is what matters most. The real torment lies in the fact that he isn’t sure exactly when I’ll remove his chastity device and let him finish – it happens only on my whim, as a surprise completely under my control. Once I sense that Eric is prepared, seeing both his excitement and expectation of his next release reach their height, while also wanting to feel his cock either in my hands or mouth, or thrusting into my backside, I produce the key and undo his cage… He becomes erect almost immediately, remaining firm for a long time as I draw him closer to climax. And when he finally releases, it is explosive – a mental peak with his penis that surpasses anything he experienced before wearing the device.”
“I doubt I could endure such a chastity device for more than an hour or two, nor focus at work if I were constantly as aroused as he is day after day. Yet Eric has fully adjusted to wearing it and to our new sexual rhythm; it fits his nature well enough. I keep the key over him primarily in the bedroom, which covers most of our kink. Outside of rare moments like tonight, our daily lives are largely unaffected by his device or our little game of teasing, denying, and controlling orgasms.”
Just then, Eric entered from the bedroom and sat next to Rex, resting a hand on Rex’s thigh. “Rex, I don’t believe I can make it until next month.”
In response, Rex teased, “Well, why not aim for three months this time? What do you say? That aligns roughly with your birthday. It would serve as a fine gift.”
“No, surely I cannot wait that long,” Eric replied. “Alright then, let’s stick to the two-month schedule again.” With a sigh, Eric left the room heading toward the kitchen to set dinner on the table.
Topping from Below and Topping Above
Rex whispered into my ear, “Eric attempts to take charge – he tries to seize control of our sex life occasionally when his need becomes desperate, but I ensure it doesn’t happen. Eric only truly gets a chance to top himself when he holds the key. However, once he hands me back that key, he effectively gives up that opportunity. He may suggest an early release from his cage or propose a game that might lead to an earlier orgasm, but deep down, he wants me to say ‘No’. When I refuse or threaten to extend his time in chastity, he pouts and complains for a bit, yet later admits he loves how the teasing and denial make him feel. Ultimately, he delights when I deny him; that refusal is crucial and works closely with the teasing.”
“I think we will go ahead with a third month after all,” Rex mused aloud. “Hmmm… Eric would adore it! Or perhaps next month I’ll start massaging his prostate as though we are locking up for three months, but then stop mid-session, thrust my cock into him unexpectedly while stroking his penis during the ride! He’d love that approach too. Maybe even just before he’s about to climax, I’ll cease stroking and snap the chastity cage shut again – driving him mad for days afterward; another thing he’d enjoy. Though I don’t think we will delay his next orgasm by a full three months, perhaps only an extra week or so. I’ll make it enjoyable. Eric will be incredibly horny when the time finally comes…”
“And then,” Rex continued, “we’ll take one to two weeks of vacation without the device to see how we both truly feel about making this permanent – that was our agreement: nine months total. I shall return the key to him and indicate that while he keeps it if he wishes, I’d prefer having it back. We’ll celebrate Eric’s birthday with a passionate night concluding our chastity break, after which… well, perhaps Eric will hand me the key once more so I can click the lock shut again,” Rex said, giving me a knowing wink before falling silent for a moment.
“Dinner!” Eric called out loudly.
stepped out from the kitchen to lead us toward the dining area. Ten Myths – Many Shattered… 1) Wearing a chastity device will make me lose interest in sex and Iʼll become asexual!
Not necessarily, provided your key holder teases you and denies release before letting you climax. Your nature remains unchanged; the device doesn’t alter who you are. You still enjoy sexual activity, correct? 2) Wearing a chastity device will make me effeminate. No. While “sissy” role-play often features chastity devices, it is widely enjoyed by couples generally. If you do not naturally lean toward feminine behavior, wearing one won’t force you to act that way. 3) Wearing a chastity device will make me a more attentive partner. Perhaps – temporarily. And perhaps sexually so. This serves as a common “hook” used by the partner eager to wear the device to win over their key holder. Increased attention might blend both intimate and non-intimate interactions. It is typical for a newly chaste individual to be more observant at first, driven by the novelty of the experience and hoping to encourage an orgasm from their key holder. However, wearing the device does not manufacture love within a relationship. In games centered on discipline or submission, being highly attentive may become the expected behavior for the one in chastity. Yet, if that partner prefers not to engage in these specific dynamics, the effort of showering attention upon the key holder to “purchase” an orgasm over time can grow wearying. Resentment might develop between both parties should this heightened attentiveness wane or cease. Ultimately, most chaste partners will revert to many of their usual habits regarding care for one another. The degree of attention they offer may drop back toward pre-chastity levels in certain areas over time. Obviously, however, their intimate interactions shift to suit the constraints of the device. Many couples report a lasting boost in affection from the wearer, suggesting some validity to this myth. Additionally, while teasing by the key holder can prompt more attentiveness, excessive or prolonged teasing might exhaust the chaste partner and lead to built-up resentment. 4) Wearing a chastity device will make me less lazy. Perhaps – for a time. This is another frequent “hook” employed by those keen on wearing the device to attract their key holder’s interest; see earlier points for context. Ultimately, ordinary chaste partners tend to settle back into familiar routines and a comfortable level of household activity over time. A key holder can curb laziness in their partner through teasing aimed at specific outcomes, but if the intensity is too high or sustained for too long, demanding more than the partner truly wishes to give, exhaustion from the game may set in alongside resentment. 5) My chastity device poses numerous health risks. Some health concerns are possible with a chastity device. Chafing is a persistent issue that baby oil or lotion can mitigate. Edema (swelling and fluid buildup beneath the skin) frequently occurs if the ring encircles the testicles too tightly, or if the tube constricts the penis excessively. Adjustments or resizing usually fix these issues. Certain devices may simply not suit certain bodies, necessitating a switch to eliminate edemas. Proper blood flow to the genitals is vital. If your testicles feel cold or appear purple, take off the device immediately and resize it for a proper fit. Routine cleaning is necessary to stop fungus, lesions, and infection at the points where the device touches genital skin. These risks increase markedly when urine, sweat, and dead skin accumulate in the
device over time. Keep things really clean to avoid these problems.
Contemporary medical wisdom says that regular ejaculation cleans toxins from the prostate to reduce the risk of cancer. Prostate massage is popular to purge the prostate without ejaculating so that long periods of time between orgasms are less of a health concern. 6) Wearing a chastity device will make my cock shrink. Probably not. Weight gain can indeed make your penis apparently shorter as some length is obscured by body fat. Conversely, weight loss adds to the apparent length of your penis. Wearing your chastity device wonʼt change the length of all those tissues in your penis. Some people who have worn a chastity device for a long period of time report a small loss of girth that is attributed to some atrophy, but this is debatable without any rigorous studies to back those observations up. At the end of the day, your cock is your partners, and not your own, so you shouldnʼt worry about it. 7) My balls will get huge as they fill with come. No. At some point, all the glands and organs that contribute fluid to your ejaculate “spill” into your urine when the stored volume of those fluids becomes excessive. Nothing accumulates in your testicles that doesnʼt also spill into your urine. If your testicles do enlarge, there may be a medical reason you may need to see a doctor about. 8) My chastity device is 100% secure so that I canʼt cheat and masturbate. No. No device has proven to be 100% secure. Proper sizing and adjustment enhance the deviceʼs security and itʼs ability to control orgasms (see above). Belts over the hips are generally more secure than cages that grip your balls, by the way. 9) My chastity device needs to leave some room to accommodate an erection. This is a sizing debate for many people. The expert consensus is that ideally, you want to completely prevent your penis from becoming engorged with blood and getting even partially erect for the greatest degree of comfort particularly at night. Consequently, your chastity cage should be as close to the flaccid dimensions of your penis as possible. A chastity cage that only accommodates you while flaccid also provides less opportunity for movement and stimulation that can lead to cheating and “unauthorized” ejaculations. 10) Chastity will cure erectile dysfunction. Not cure, but certainly help it… Many men who wear a chastity device claim that chastity has almost completely eliminated any ED symptoms and performance anxiety issues that they had. If your nerves still function, you will get hard and orgasm when the key holder unlocks your chastity device at the right time and gets intimate with you. A Few “Kinky Links” – Just a Few, and not too.. Chastity Blogs: Chastity Blog Aggregator The Edge of Vanilla – Tom Allen Male Chastity Blog – Sarah Jameson Chastity Community Forums: the community the archived discussion Chastity Lifestyle Chastity Mansion A few other Information Sources (in order of “kinkiness”): Chastity UK Altairboy Lady Lubyanka (Prostate Milking) Chastity Device Manufacturers: A. L. Enterprises BirdLocked Bon4 Carrara Designs - Walter Goethals ExoBelt Fetish Felix Gerecke Loriʼs Tubes Mario Latowski Mature Metal Neosteel Chas
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