For me, the excitement doesn’t really come from whether I’m having sex or not while in male chastity. What I enjoy is simply chatting about it with my wife. Let me share an example.
On Monday evening, I gave Melissa a full-body massage that lasted an hour. It was delightful for me to provide her pleasure, even though I knew she probably wouldn’t offer anything back. I made up my mind not to ask for anything either; I wanted the experience to be entirely for her.
The following day, I asked what had been going through her head during that massage. How did it feel just receiving and enjoying? Did she realize how powerful a thing it was for me to caress her bare body knowing we wouldn’t go further? And how did it feel coming to bed with no pressure to return the favor—just drifting off to sleep while I stayed aroused beside her?
She said being massaged without worrying about what I might want made her so relaxed that she almost fell asleep. She noted she was fully aware I was turned on, but saw no reason to bring it up or stress over it that night, especially since she had let me climax on Saturday.
The key point is this: I derive great pleasure just from hearing her thoughts and feelings regarding our dynamic. It brings almost as much joy as if she were touching me physically.
I’m also surprised to discover that her happiness truly becomes my own. Seeing her content with a simple foot rub makes me happy and satisfied.
Hearing her say “no” does it for me too. During Monday’s massage, I asked if she wanted me to use my tongue on her, and she replied, “No, not tonight.” Just hearing her confidence and straightforwardness was wonderful.
I never would have expected these small moments to bring me such joy. I used to think everything revolved around my cock and reaching orgasm. This shift in perspective is doing wonders for me. Michael