Performance Woes After Lock-Up

Infrequent commentator here, but long time and appreciative stalker… Coming out of a longer term MC lock-up (close to a month) from a CH Cage (same as MM Jailbird). Last night was the announced “due date”. My KH and I got into a discussion about whether to continue (my preference) or whether we should have a nice mutual orgasm. (her preference) During the discussion, it got a bit uncomfortable, as I felt very much like I was “topping from the bottom” by asking for more time or extending the game. She’s really been GGG, taking key and release date ownership, and being a good receiver for massage and other touchpoints. But she wouldn’t claim cock ownership, if asked. We talked through the benefits of the last month, but it landed on a “whatever YOU need to do, I guess that’s what we’ll do” point which wasn’t where I wanted it. I think she wanted to help, but she was also confused by me, and my desire to extend, all things considered. Fast forward to some massaging and unlocked play, which culminated in a “well, now I want you inside me”. Historically, this is a place where I can’t hold back long, MC or not. But I felt a bit compelled to comply. So, I negotiated an extended pleasure condom, which she was fine with and has allowed play for me without coming on most occasions. And then…I couldn’t maintain an erection worthy of the condom or much else. Very frustrating session. After a few tries, we pretty much abandoned the whole event. I guess I got my wish to keep the streak going, as she told me to “go lock up”, but the whole scene felt awful. This hasn’t been a problem in the past (well, not one that couldn’t be resolved with a little extra attention), but has anyone else had ED performance anxiety coming out of a long-term lockup? I was very excited, and leaking like crazy, (perhaps more than ever) even in a non-erect way. We’re used to being a “quickie” coming out of the cage, but not a “no-show”. I’m sure a fair amount of this can be tied to the conversation leading up to this, but just wanted to know what others have seen. Am back in my lock now, with a new date out a few weeks, but I’m thinking that we need to address the unfinished business of last night ahead of any extension of personal record or otherwise. Welcome the thoughts and experiences of this group. I’ve got Viagra on reserve if needed, but that seems so much a “nuclear” option here… btb