Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

I’ve been part of this community for years but haven’t posted much, particularly in recent times. My spouse and I have toyed with chastity intermittently over the last several years without staying locked up longer than a few days or perhaps a week before having long breaks between sessions. Over fifteen years into our vanilla marriage we stepped into a D/S dynamic. In our specific case, it began as cuckolding and soon evolved into Femdom. The journey had its share of halts and stops throughout the years. Our initial gadget was a CB-3000 which worked well initially but, as many are aware, is generally low quality, liable to breakage, and not very cozy. Next we bought a CB-2000 that proved much better than the 3000 despite being an older model. Unfortunately it suffered from comparable problems so when it failed it ended up in the trash too. As life often goes I was browsing eBay without specifically hunting for a new cage but thought why not check out current options. I found this product. Given the cost ($40) I decided to pick it up even if it was just suitable for occasional weekend play. It turns out to be an ideal cage! Quite comfortable day and night, low profile with minimal visibility when clothed. The best part is that unlike CB models which tend to slip off unpredictably this one stays put.\nShaving isn’t effortless but manageable; I’ve kept my genitals completely shaved while wearing it. I shared all that background just to get to the main point of my post. We had been using the new cage for occasional weekends and it seemed like a playtime accessory, worn whenever she desired much like previous ones. On December 8th, 2012 I was being somewhat “cheeky” (as she puts it) with my hand under her shirt while she checked out the evening movie listings over my shoulder. I was pretending to reach for her soft breast visible beneath her sweater. She cautioned me against doing so but I persisted. As my hand moved without a definite plan to touch her, I accidentally brushed her breast and indeed grazed her hanging nipple as well. I pulled back quickly as though burned by fire. I knew better; it was mostly teasing directed at both of us. Once contact happened I realized trouble was coming. She reprimanded me and I thought perhaps that would be the end of it, but after picking a film to watch I had to change clothes for our outing. That’s when she told me to put on the new cage as well.. I felt pleased because it seemed we were going to “play” with chastity over that weekend. It appears something has shifted in Her perspective regarding cages. As of today, January 2, 2013 (note: source says 2012 but context implies ongoing timeline relative to Dec), I will have been locked continuously for nearly a full month. We discuss my predicament from time to time and She hasn’t offered any clues about when release might come. I’ve never stayed locked this long without being denied the chance to masturbate either. My feelings are mixed; I truly desire freedom and some relief, yet at the same time want to remain confined for Her sake and appreciate the frustration and surrender. If she does let me out I hope it’s just a quick release before locking me back in immediately. Even typing this now makes me feel aroused by the prospect. My hopes and fears are that this becomes our permanent routine, perhaps eventually leading to longer periods of confinement. As many here know it is those conflicting “needs and wants” that drive chastity dynamics. At the start I mentioned we live a Femdom cuckold marriage which has always included some form of denial. The first area affected as we progressed down this road was blowjobs. I originally told my Wife I felt it wasn’t suitable for a Domme to suck her submissive’s cock. Then over time sexual intercourse reduced until one day that option disappeared too. Throughout all these changes intimate touching remained permitted only with consent. We’ve both enjoyed the progression so far. Now, it seems the last remaining pleasure granted to me—masturbation—is also facing limits. I find this simultaneously exciting and annoying but can’t help hoping this aspect evolves further.