I’ll step up and introduce ourselves. My spouse and I have been together for just over six years. While we were both fairly conventional in past relationships, our early sex life was BDSM-focused with her taking the submissive role. We smoothly transitioned into full-swap swinging without any fuss or drama, meeting most of our current friends along the way while keeping our BDSM dynamic alive. Roughly a year and a half back, I discovered chastity and thought it might be an intriguing, occasional kink to explore periodically. My wife agreed easily, saying “sure, why not.” We’ve used a CB-6000s and replaced various parts: one 10-gauge frenum piercing tore out, the 6-gauge PA has healed up now, and the Lori 8B fits perfectly. All this effort for what was supposed to be just an occasional kink! She recently got herself a very nice boyfriend who manages to ravage her beautifully (I love seeing her flushed after they’re done). My wonderful wife brought up permanent orgasm denial last week. Even though I asked for a weekend of freedom with her beforehand, I feel prepared to go ahead.
There is no way I can explain the unexpected pull of having my penis caged, giving up orgasms, and allowing my wife—my soulmate and love—to have sex not with me but with other men she chooses. I struggle even to explain it myself. Partly I dislike it, yet I know I’ll keep going despite knowing she would take off the cage if I really insisted.
I wouldn’t change a thing.