I’ve been quietly watching the other forum for ages. I happened upon male chastity (and then that site) purely by chance. I don’t consider myself a slave or a sissy, nor do I want to be. I’m simply a man who enjoys the concept of chastity and T&D. While I have always had a kinky and somewhat submissive side, it hasn’t dominated my life. My wife is a bit kinky but largely vanilla; she doesn’t fit neatly into either sub or dom categories, just acting according to her mood.
As mentioned, I adore the idea of wearing chastity, yet sometimes I find my wife difficult to decipher. I’ve brought it up before and she seemed entertained by it without being truly “interested.” It wouldn’t be worth spending a lot on a device hoping she’d get hooked, so I decided to craft one myself. The result is a decent contraption made from a steel ring and a 1 1/4” PVC street elbow. It’s not perfectly secure or practical, and you can tell it’s there under clothes, but I’ve been tweaking it over time.
Accidentally (perhaps?), she spotted me wearing it once and found the idea amusing—this was before I figured out how to lock it properly. Now, it works well as a full device, and recently I actually put it on and gave her the keys. She raised an eyebrow and took them but didn’t stash them away. That evening, when she came to bed, she teased me endlessly. It felt both great and awful simultaneously. I started thinking maybe she was warming up to it until she mentioned leaving the keys by her nightstand in case I needed to unlock myself for the morning. Since then, she’s mostly ignored my situation.
It’s a mixed bag, clearly. I’m not complaining though. The uncertainty about whether an expensive device is worth it lingers; based on her reaction so far, it might take weeks of consistent locking to tell if she’s genuinely interested. Meanwhile, my DIY solution isn’t very practical and can only be worn for short periods.
That’s the gist of it (pun not intended). I’ve read nearly every thread there. Some really irritate me, but I’m hesitant to share them with her. I’m unsure why this discomfort exists, but intuition tells me patience is key and waiting for the right moments to move forward is necessary.
Currently, I’ve been locked since Wednesday (four days now), with one night of active engagement from her. I let myself out today:sad: to check for issues and make adjustments that should improve practicality.