Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

I’ll begin by noting that my wife controlling my cock with a cage has been one of my biggest turn-ons since I first heard about it. It’s been two years of attempts now, and I’m ready to give up. I’ve tried nearly every kind of ball trap device available, gone through roughly seven devices, owned a CBX3000, had a custom cherry keeper made, used many inexpensive online models, etc. My longest wear time has been around six hours, but even then everything starts hurting badly. After six hours, peeing is painful, I have significant abdominal pain near my balls, feel somewhat incontinent for the next couple of days, and my erections are definitely weaker. This last time I pushed to six hours, I worried about permanent damage, though the effects seem to have resolved. I was nearly ready to rush to the hospital over that belly ache, and urination hurt like crazy. I’m terrified to wear it overnight or for multiple days in a row. The issue is that while wearing it usually feels quite comfortable; problems tend to show up afterward. Then frustration sets in as I realize this might not be healthy long-term. I’ve experimented extensively with ring sizes, keeping them as loose as possible without the device falling off. I’m reluctant to wear a full belt or get piercings, which would feel like too much for both my wife and me. This makes me wonder how you all manage it. Perhaps my body is just unusual, or maybe others aren’t concerned about incontinence/impotence. Maybe many stories here are more fantasy than reality; I’m not sure. One thing is certain: the idea of being locked by a keyholder for days on end remains exactly that—a fantasy.