Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Lately I’ve noticed a clear link between my device usage and her level of arousal. We’ve practiced chastity intermittently for about three years, but with the MM device in play over the last two, it’s been more on than off. Suddenly, the base ring feels too tight, so I’m currently out while waiting for my new Lori unit to arrive. There have been a few short periods where I went back into the MM model. The point is that when I wear the device, she gets very horny and asks me to help her finish. Without it, her desire seems lower. Last night, she pointed out that if I’m not in the cage, I seem to expect my orgasm after hers. She wasn’t keen on that idea… rolled over and went back to sleep. Has anyone else seen a direct connection between their chastity status and their partner’s sex drive?