Chastity in vanilla life discussion

Heads up, this is likely going to be a long read with little payoff. My wife/KH and I fit right into this forum. She’s naturally vanilla by nature, yet she has always been a supportive partner regarding my cross dressing needs. She indulges my occasional need for bondage, though it isn’t something she feels herself. However, she seems to enjoy my chastity devices (MM jailbird and pet trap), although we only use them intermittently because of her desire for PIV sex. But when I am locked, it is at her request, and I remain locked until she decides to let me out. That’s our agreement…I can certainly hint that I’d like to be locked, but I do not ask to be unlocked. Until recently, I always kept a backup key with me. My cages have been custom fitted by MM to fine tolerances, so they are quite comfortable and we use countersunk security screws. In short, because of the fit and my anatomy once on, neither one is coming off without the key, bolt cutters, or WAY more pain than I am willing to endure voluntarily. At first we both thought the backup key was vital. I work in a corporate environment, and my office is over an hour away by commuter rail. Until we fine tuned the fit, I would occasionally slip out on one side, and having the key allowed me to recage myself. But part of it was her desire that I have the freedom to let myself out. (I told you she was vanilla…didn’t really understand the whole idea at first. ) But then, a few months ago, by chance, that changed and I do not have an emergency key at all. And I LOVE it! The short story is that I was caged, and had given her one key. A few days later she was going to uncage me for sex, but after I heard her scrambling around a bit upstairs, she came down and confessed she had lost the key, and asked if we could use the emergency key. I better digress a bit. More of a funny story, several months prior we were away on along weekend getaway in Vermont, and I had bee n locked beforehand. So our first evening up, after a nice romantic dinner, wine by the fireplace, we headed off to the bedroom…only for her to realize she had forgotten the key! And my backup key was in my briefcase back home (I knew we’d be together and she’d have her key.). Well, as you can imagine, her PIV desires went unfulfilled, and we laughed about it the rest of the weekend and even now joke about it. For me, it was exciting in a different way…here I was ready to be out, eager for sex, only to be seriously denied! I discovered I enjoyed that feeling more than I expected. Ok, so back to the lost key. So yes, I got out the emergency key, she unlocked me, and we continued our evening. The next day I suggested to her that I should probably contact Mature Metal and order a new set of screws and two keys, so we’d have a backup. But to my surprise, she asked if that was really necessary. She noted that we are together usually, and I work from home 3-4 days a week. I agreed with that, then added that since I last fine tuned the fit, I have not slipped out, and even when trying couldn’t easily get out, so I saw no need for a key to recage myself in the event of a “slip and fall”. And I had previously learned that I REALLY liked not having a backup. Not sure why, but knowing I have no means of (practically speaking) removing the cage is hugely comforting and thrilling for me at the same time. So, at her suggestion, we never did order a new set, and she keeps the only key when I am locked. And I couldn’t be happier with that. I love that she has the only key, and my release is only at her desire. Also, I have found it is less stressful in certain situations. I don’t have to have an internal debate as to whether I should remove the cage or not…I can’t! So if I head off to a four day convention with buddies and she doesn’t hand me the key, guess who stayed locked the whole trip? Off to the state fair and worried about the men’s rooms? Too bad! I love that I have no say in the matter. And just as important to me is that she prefers it that way too! P.s.: A few weeks ago she actually found the MIA key. But now when I get locked (such as last night), I hand her BOTH keys! And yes, there is a fantasy part of me hoping she misplaces them both! Take care, and if you made it this far, thank you!