Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

I purchased a highly realistic dildo for my wife. It’s actually bigger than me. Heads up! If she has the same temperament as my wife, whenever she desires penetrative sex, you will be locked and using that large dildo on her. Once that happens, there's no going back.

Hmmmm.... the **dildo** isn't really a full substitute for a real cock when it comes to women who crave that warm, throbbing sensation. (If she is truly dominant, she might prefer you wearing a strapon while caged, but my gut feeling says otherwise here). Some women do enjoy toys, but based on your description, she clearly likes the real thing and loves having an internal finish. I relate completely. So, in her case, **dildo** isn't the answer; what she needs is a more skilled lover. My suggestion: focus on lasting as long as possible so she enjoys sharing penetrative sex with you too. I won’t be crude here: she is your Wife, not just a disposable pleasure object. It’s generally acceptable to simply pump and dump (unless she specifically asks for it), but there's usually more to offer. Research techniques other men use online; they are plentiful on the internet and likely discussed in these forums as well. My ex-partner of several years learned to last an incredibly long time after enduring mental chastity. Initially, I had to make him ruin his own orgasms if he came inside me too soon. He absolutely HATED that strange, desperate sensation. He quickly decided never to do it on purpose again. Occasionally when he visits now, if he slips up because months have passed and control is hard, I don’t let it slide. Ever. Plus, a ruined orgasm forces him to work harder immediately after so that I say the magic words. He learned to cum on command effectively enough that even an unhardened penis can do it within a second. Once you master this, simultaneous orgasms become standard. Your Wife deserves this level of care. If my lover finishes inside me "in nothing flat," every two weeks is actually quite generous. Women have much more sex when the quality is high; we’re constantly engaged when it's good enough to be addictive. Her low desire seems like just a symptom, not the root cause. I’m glad you are exploring ways to improve her situation and find methods to please her.