I haven’t posted in a while but I am back for some advice. My wife is very vanilla and has hated the idea of chastity and wouldn’t even allow a cage around the house. She did relent for a while and we had a modified FLR relationship. I could not masturbate and could only have an O inside her. She would tease me during the week and I loved doing things to please her.
Well, long story short I began to lose interest and wanted the kink of wearing the cage more than the FLR dynamic itself. This went on for a few months and she noticed that when I was pleasing myself I didn’t treat her very well. Three weeks ago we talked about it and agreed to go back to orgasm denial. It was working until she had to spend four days away at a retreat. She told me I couldn’t cum while she was gone. I knew I couldn’t do it without help, so I locked myself in the only cage that I hadn’t thrown out yet. Its an HT3 steel knockoff model of a chastity cage. It was very painful at night but I love the feeling of being restricted. Its very addicting.
When she got home I confessed what I had done and told her I couldn’t throw away the device. She said fine as long as she didn’t see it. That is a huge step.
She also mentioned that she had dreams of me controlling her in bed. So thats what we did. We had beautiful piV sex.
The next night she brought it up again so I took her clothes off and licked her to orgasm. Before she could come down I entered her and told her to use me. I have always fantasized about entering her without being allowed to cum. So she came again and I pulled out without ejaculating. Afterwards I told her I would need to lock myself up again if she left for any length of time. She says ok.
What do I do now? Can we have an FLR relationship outside the bedroom with me being dominant in the bedroom? It seems like a conundrum.
Any insight would be appreciated.