Greetings all, I’m posting here for the first time, and I hope it won’t be my last. I’ve been observing from the sidelines for some time now. This community has played a key role in helping me decide to dive into chastity. I am a married man who is happy with his life. My wife and I have shared seven years of marriage so far. She is wonderful, and she has happily gone along with all my kinky antics up until this point. I enjoy being dominated, which is what brought me here.
The part that was giving me trouble was figuring out how to bring the idea of chastity to my wife’s attention. It wasn’t because it was a bad concept; rather, it felt strange at first glance. Our sex life is generally good, perhaps even great, but when we have problems, they usually stem from my difficulty maintaining an erection. I deal with a medical condition that affects this, and on top of that, I enjoy drinking beer. That combination isn’t ideal. Additionally, I masturbate several times each week. Overall, I’m quite content. Consequently, there are moments when I don’t feel as driven for sex as one might expect.
Before revealing my desire to wear a chastity device to my wife, I ordered two items: a Rigid Chastity unit (which is still in transit) and a Holy Trainer 3 Nano. After wearing the HT for seven days, I realized that this lifestyle suits me well. There were no problems with fit or comfort at all. The one drawback was how simple it was to get out of. Even though I have penile arousal during erection (PA), I feel that isn’t sufficient on its own because it’s too easy to defeat. To truly secure the device, I’d need two separate locks and keys for each. It would be a hassle. Therefore, I chose to wait for my Rigid Chastity shipment before fully committing.
In the end, I opted for complete transparency with her. I shared details about my masturbation routine and the associated porn viewing. I also explained that abstaining from orgasms tends to heighten my sexual desire, so I’d like to try limiting myself by not permitting orgasms. We can still engage in intercourse, but I won’t be allowed to climax on my own. My plan was to go a full month without an orgasm, and I shouldn’t permit one until I actually beg for it. However, I acknowledged that I might struggle to control the urge alone, so I proposed using a chastity device along with reporting mechanisms in case I do manage to have an orgasm unaided. She listened carefully and seemed open to the idea.
Now, we are eagerly waiting for our Rigid Chastity device to arrive. Everything is going well thus far.