I sense that being in chastity has boosted my likelihood of premature ejaculation. Even before I experimented with a cage, I couldn’t hold out for long, but I could manage to some degree and knew how to slow down.
Now I can’t do that anymore. I genuinely miss the point of no return (even during masturbation). This isn’t just something specific to after wearing a device; it’s more general.
Has anyone else noticed similar things?
I reckon if every guy were in chastity we’d all be PE sufferers lol. When I was still masturbating regularly I could go on forever; sometimes I really had to force myself to reach orgasm. I’d numbed my brain with too much masturbation and porn. Now that habit has been gone for 4 years, I last anywhere from a few seconds to several minutes depending on how much foreplay we've done. I’ve also dealt with several ruined orgasms where I try to pull out but cum anyway a few seconds later without even being touched. It bothered me at first until my Miss helped me see that she likes it because PE makes her feel good about herself. She knows the strapon is just waiting if she still wants penetration, but often I give her multiple O’s before getting mine, and she feels deeply satisfied knowing it will only last a few seconds for me. I hated it initially but have actually come to enjoy the humiliation of feeling inadequate while seeing that she enjoys it. Just go with the flow:)
My wife hated me stopping repeatedly to avoid cumming. She told me to just go ahead and finish, in fact, do it as fast as possible. The last few times we had intercourse, I started ejaculating on the second thrust inward. It was all done within 10 seconds from start to finish.
I had a mild PE issue before my wife put me in strict chastity but it worsened after being locked up. I am at the stage now where as soon as my penis gets hard I am ready to cum and can't hold it back. She won't allow me to 'dirty' her pussy, so on rare occasions when I manage some control she lets me inside for a couple of thrusts before I have to pull out. It has reached a point where sometimes, even with permission to orgasm, I finish before getting hard!
> desertsub said: > It has gotten to the point that sometimes, when she gives me permission to have an orgasm, I cum before I even get hard! > Click to expand... A little over a year ago, I was ejaculating before getting hard as well. My wife has increased how often I give hand jobs from once every 2 months to 1 or 2 times a month, and now I am getting hard before finishing.
I never really could last long. It was okay for normal sex though. Then she started locking me up for longer stretches. When we had intercourse I would come almost immediately upon entering her. That is why we began using penis sleeves and strapons, which led to even less regular sex and me being locked away even longer.
> nrbill said: > My wife hated me stopping all the time to keep from cumming. She told me to just go ahead and cum, in fact, cum as fast as I could. The last few times I had intercourse with her, I started cumming on the second stroke going in. It was all over in 10 seconds, start to finish. > Click to expand... This is indeed the fundamental conundrum. If we can't satisfy her then why should she allow it? And if she doesn't allow it we'll get even less adequate.
With my ex-wife we first had an 'honour' system where I simply didn't masturbate and was usually given relief either through intercourse or other methods two to three times a week. However, I often went without for a week or two, or even longer (five weeks on one occasion). The longer I'd gone without the quicker I would come so at first we had a training system where I'd be tied to the bed for sex and had to hold out for several minutes the first time, increasing by one or two minutes each success until I was managing about fifteen minutes. If I failed the duration didn't increase but I spent the rest of the evening (usually going to the pub during the week or a restaurant on weekends) in an increasing amount of women's underwear which she'd deliberately picked to be uncomfortable. If I came before her, she would stay with me until I was hard again and had reached orgasm, usually meaning I ended up just as frustrated as if I hadn't relieved myself for days. Later we used delay spray (a topical anaesthetic like Stud 100) so she could enjoy 20-30 minutes of sex without the risk of my finishing. At the end, she might allow me relief, but more often than not would 'save me for later', meaning we'd have intercourse four or five times a week but I'd only get one orgasm, albeit a very powerful one.
I also felt that PE can be an issue (especially if you make it one - the brain is the sexual organ!). Nevertheless, I have also experienced lasting very long... I discovered that through tease and denial, you can train yourself to last longer (if you want). Having fit PC muscles also helps in this regard. I must say that after 13 years of chastity play I realize that the more relaxed you become and don't make a big deal out of things, the more you enjoy and experience the feelings provided. Have fun, enjoy, accept! G.
I used to last well. After starting with chastity is a different story. It bothered me quite a bit before. When I told my wife one day how it annoyed me that I finished too soon, she simply stated that she was happy because I couldn’t control myself. She felt reinforced in her mind just how desirable she is to me.