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A few days before the previous post, I had pampered her very well and she had told me I could lock up. She's still recovering from her injury and having visitors for the hollidays doubles up the pressure, as soon as we got to bed, she killed the lights and went to sleep. She had forgotten about the cage. She always makes me take it off when we get to thr bedroom for the night. We had an appointment very early the next day as well. I think she was just focused on getting to sleep in time for the super early appointment... I drove her to the appointment at about 5:30 a.m. we got done and were heading back to the house. I think about half way home she remembered the cage and mentioned something about it. I gently grabbed her hand and put it on my crotch. She grabbed and felt the pulled her hand away. She sort of did a double take and reached back over and grabbed again, realizing that I still had the cage on. She said she was very surprised that she hadn't noticed it and asked it I had it in all night. I told her that it was in all night. I think this was the moment that she realized I could be locked up in outside of our house, i didn't know it yet but it was "game on" at this point. She said "you're taking that thing off as soon as we get home!" I replied, "Yes Ma'am!". Then the previous post happened a few days later... In the previous post, the wife told me i had misbehaving and needed to lock up. This was a huge change as I've only asked her to let me lock up or she said I could lock up as a "barter" for excessive pampering. This time, she had commanded me to lock up. It wasn't from me pestering her or trading good behavior, it was because she enjoyed the spark of power and started to excercise that control over me instead of our usual top from bottom routine. The next day, we woke up early due to all of the other critters (visitors) scrambling around in our house early. She beat me out of bed, didn't say much bit on her way out of the bedroom, she paused for a second, and said, "you better lock up" before she walked out the door! More to follow...

After yesterday morning's lock up instruction in the morning, I spent the day locked up doing things around the house and enjoyed the holiday guests. When we finally went to bed, my wife had me take the cage off as soon as we got to the bedroom. Still worried about sores. This was her second day holding the key. She had left the key in her purse downstairs so I used the extra key i keep for emergencies. I mentioned that I may want to give her the extra key too after i removed the device. We talked for a long timd while I played with her hair. We had an amazing conversation, some about chastity but also about a lot of other things. I really enjoyed talking to my partner without it being a ruse to try to pry her into kinky sex - or vanilla sex. It would have been a bit easier to not be pushy if i was still locked, so i still said at least a few racey things. I asked her to hold my phone for the night. Aside from the emotional enema I got from talking to her for such a long time, i also didn't get hung up on the phone looking at emails or browsing all night. Best night's sleep in a *long* time. Today i woke up and left the wife to take care of the house, already full of woke guests. She stayed to sleep and was very much still alseep when i got up. Before i left, i asked her if i should come shower and lock up when she got up. She said "of course my love!" After she got up, she came down and gave me a dirty look and pointed to the bedroom when noone was looking after i didn't immediately go excuse myself. So I went to go take a shower and get locked up. I also decided to shave as the hairs were a bit prickley from my fresh shave a few days ago. Then i went to go put on the evotion 8 knockoff. I had the pattern down pretty well. Put on the ring. Calm down. Throw on the ice cold water to soften up enough to get in. Wait a minute, I was calm enough hot so i clamped the top cage and bottom cage together, pushed the assmebly back to the ring, and worked the straps to closed, making sure to deal with any pinchy issues. I was *very* happy that i didnt have to do the ice cold water treatment to get into the cage, looking forward to warm showers from noe on hopefully. I spent the rest of the day working around the house like a busy bee. At one point, we had some alone time and chatted. She said she loved how much attention I was giving her and she really appreciated how hard i was working for her. She also asked me to remind her to make sure she brings her purse with the key to bed. I was really happy about the pruse-key conversation, i dont like unlocking with the emergency key and want to put it in a tamper proof envelope or something like that soon. I cleaned out the garage and made a trip into town to get a few luxury items for the wife to surprise her. I've also decided to start writing my wife love notes by hand. Hopefully I'll keep that up! I'm waiting caged in bed for her to come up after all the guests wind down. I'm not expecting anything but I'm looking forward to her giving me the key to unlock tonight. Then again, sounds like they're drinking so she may come up and forget about the cage for the night and I'll end up pulling 2 days straight...

My wife came to bed last night and gave me the her key to unlock. It felt really great to use her key instead of the emergency key. I handed her my phone to put on her nightstand. I hadn't though about it till now but if I don't start staying locked up at night, I'm thinking about trading my phone for the key. Since I have one of those skeleton core keys, I need the key to lock the cage up in the morning. Hand the phone in at night, get the key, unlock, go to bed, wake up, shower, lock up, give key, get phone... We had a good little talk, she asked about how my cock was doing, i told her its great and that it's her cock. We talked about a lot of things; she eventually asked about the chastity more and why I was liking being locked up. I told her that i loosd focus on her after i orgasm fof a day or two and feel bad about that. I then told her i have a masturbation problem and wanted to stop because it affects my attitude around her. She was *not* happy to hear this. We talked about it for a while; she told me she wasn't mad, just disappointed with me. I was playing with her hair at the time and she pushed my hands off. I knew she was upset. After we talked more, she pushed her hair up over her pillow, my sign to play with her hair. We talked a little more until she was ready to sleep. I moved over to my side of the bed but kept playing with her hair until she fell asleep. I was really worried that I had wrecked it but I feel like honesty is what she deserves and I shouldn't keep secrets, even it it was a "harmless omition" like jerking off. Over the last few weeks, I realized that doing that even every other few days DOES influence the way I behave. I had bought her some earplugs and a sleep mask (love the leather blindfolds we have but they don't work too great for sleeping in!) She briefly woke up when the guests started banging around and put in the earplugs wore the slerp mask. I quietly got up and started taking care of things as well as wrangling all of the guests so my lovely wife could sleep in. When she woke up, asked her if I could go shower and lock up. She said yes, then listed off a list of things for me to do around the house after I got done showering, locking up, grooming, and making up the bedroom. Before locking up, i put a little aloe lotion on the area to make sure things stay healthy. I also filed down a few rough spots on the cage. I should take it off with the wifes permission next week and sand/polish all of the mold edges (its pressed since it's a knockoff Evo 8). I'm surprised there isn' a post called 'Zen and the Art of Chastity Device Maintenance'. Guess that may be a post that I'll make soon. After I locked up, she walked into the bedroom (I'm glad I had already made up the bedding!) I had the cage on and nothing else, she walked in at just the right time. I immediately got painfully as hard as I could in the tight cage. This was the first time she had really seen her locked up cock aside from briefly seeing it when i go to unlock it or hop into bed before i take it off. She was worried that it was painful but I told her it only 'hurts' when im getting erect and it's just enough to make it go away unless she wants to keep me semi-hard as punishment. I could tell the gears were turning in her head as she just murmured "ohhh..." I wrote her a note afterwards saying that i need to work on communication because she deserves the best. I really like writing for her; i have a stack of note cards and a pen in my side table. I need to get some nice embossed notes for her, she only deserves the best afterall.

I wrote another note for yesterday evening. She mentioned that she loved the notes more than anything. We had another great talk. I love the way we've rekindled our friendship thru talking without as much sex-pressure (and the following post orgasm drop in affection and communications). She misplaced the key so i stayed locked up for thr night! This is the first 24+ hour lock-up; especially exciting as it's been at her direction. Doing these longer times are key to show her that the cage doesn't damage or hurt her cock. I went and pee'd when I woke up in the middle of the night hard. It did the trick great. Since I figured I'd be tossing and turning, I had a second blanket on my side of the bed so i wouldnt yank the covers from her and bother her. We had a great cuddle this morning, we hadn't cuddledfor more than a week or two due to her back hurting. I was very surprised that I didn't get hard while cuddling. I guess her cock is starting to learn that theres nothing but discomfort when it gets aroused. Speaking of discomfort and arousal, while i was still on the bed, she crawled on top of me and gave me a few passionate kisses and grabbed the cage. Merry Christmas indeed.

She left me caged all day Christmas, so i did close to 40 hours locked up. I started applying aloe lotion a time or two a day as well. I think she was very surprised i went that long but wanted me to immediately take it off when we went to bed last night. The saga of the missing key continues so we're using the emergency key. I plan on ripping this house apart to find the main key as I really dont like using the emergency key. Im wondering if anyone has a solution for those ugly skeleton key stealth core lock keys. I can only find them for sale on chinese sites, specificially as chastity locks. Local hardware store had never seen one of them. I'd like to get a few extra amd experiment with welding or brazing the key shaft onto a more attractive key head and giving it to the wife on a nice necklace. I excused myself to shower and lock up this morning. I was *very* surprised to be able to lock up outside if the shower! The cage is very small and I'm a grower; it barely fits soft. I've picked up quite a few tricks to get into the device safely and quickly, which surprises me as i thought it would be a huge struggle to get in after how hard it was to get in when we first got it. The house is starting to emtpy as all the visitors scurry back to their homes. I'm expecting nothing but guessing things will heat way up soon with the Wife and I when we don't have a house full of folks.

So we finally sent thr last of the visitors on and had thr house to ourselves. When my wife got to the bedroom, i handed her my phone for safe keeping for the night. She told me to go get her vibrator. I came back and she was a bit surprised that I wasnt also unlocked. I unlocked for her and had great, very vanilla PIV. I was amazingly excited after a week of no jerking off and being locked up most if not all of the days. She felt soooo good. I made sure to tell her that and thank her. Afterwards, we had a bit of a chat about the chastity. I think she's a little upset that i won't act this way without thr cage. I told her i will if she wants me to but it will be very difficult to keep up. We went to sleep a bit later, both very happy. I woke up this morning and the wife told me to go shower and lock up after coffee, so i would behave better and not touch myself. Very erotic hearing that from her! I went and showered, locked up, and cleaned up the bed and bathrooms. She quietly snuck in right as i got out of the shower, making sure i wasnt playing with myself. I got the device on in less than a minute in the shower today. I was very surprised. Im thinking about turning thr frequency of these down a bit. Maybe to twice a week? We'll see. If i don't write something down I'm liable to missremember or forget something.

A quick update. I've kept myself locked up for about a week and a half now. I've been unlocked overnight around four times. Just recently, I slept two nights in a row with the cage on and plan to see if my wife will allow me three consecutive nights. She's still anxious about her property getting damaged! We've had some heartfelt conversations lately. She is annoyed that I need a "cage on my penis" to avoid masturbating without her permission, yet she doesn't mind me wearing it at all times. I know she enjoys how I act when locked up, but I haven't quite determined if she actually likes the cage itself. Right now, I think she might have a love-hate relationship with the device. The best case scenario is that she really loves it and finds it attractive. We'll need to dig deeper into her thoughts on this later! Because of recovery time, we've been moving at a slower pace. I'm learning that "pretty slow" sexual activity can still be very fast-paced, hot, and extra frustrating when you are locked up. We woke up this morning and she rolled over to let me cuddle close. I tucked my caged cock between her legs and snuggled behind her. Things got a bit frisky; she wrapped her arm around my head, trapping it in her armpit as I gave it a sniff (which I really enjoy!). Then she allowed me to play with her using my fingers—she was so incredibly wet. She reached back, grabbed my cage, and said, "if you didnt have this on, we could be fucking right now...". I replied, "but I wont be a good boy for you all day if i cum." After some time, she frustratingly sent me off to handle chores and take care of things around the house while she slept in more. What a morning! I ordered a stainless steel cage the other day. It'll take a little time to arrive. I'm already planning on spending at least a few hours de-burring, removing sharp edges, and polishing the new cage. I got three rings, including one that looks like it might serve as a punishment ring that i'll need to pay extra attention to when i do this work.

> Jinkyu said: > She then let me play with her with my fingers, she was soooo wet. She reached back, grabbed my cage, and said, "if you didnt have this on, we could be fucking right now..." > Click to expand... It seems that she will love to fuck you and you deny her the pleasure

> iome343 said: > It seems that she will love to fuck you and you deny her the pleasure > Click to expand... She was teasing me 100%. She doesn't want PIV right now.