I’ve just come back online after being away for quite a while and noticed that almost everything has shifted! I’m still getting my bearings again, but I really like the updated color palette.
A quick recap of how things ended last year: my wife and I were ‘playing’ once more (meaning I was locked up). It wasn’t too long in duration. As we neared Christmas, life became busier and stressier, leaving me with even less attention than usual. Since I have an HT2 device, and because she preferred using a cable tie instead of the lock—she was afraid of losing the key or needing to remove it during an emergency—I found myself relying more on an ‘honour’ system. I had suggested we use those small-tagged cable ties so she could write notes on them. It started off nicely, but my wife eventually lost interest in writing on them. Adding to that, I realized I might be able to wiggle out of it in the shower, which made me feel bitter and resentful. I was putting in a lot of effort for seemingly nothing in return.
It reached a point where I took it off myself and waited to see how long before she asked if I still had it on. It turned out to be quite a while. We hadn’t ‘played’ since then.
We chatted the other night, and now my HT2 is back on, this time with the key lock engaged. I explained that for it to work properly for me, it needs to feel truly ‘secure’. If I genuinely cannot remove it myself, I have to push through any low periods because I am effectively at her mercy. I also need proper consequences, which were missing before. Last night we agreed to discuss these further tonight, but my offer to propose some was declined. I’m perfectly happy with that; in fact, it’s ideal. My only concern is that the wife’s proposals aren’t too trivial for me.
I’ve also purchased a new inexpensive cage from eBay. It’s made of 3D-printed resin and includes a removable PA hook. It appears more secure than my HT2, but I want to suggest we take the next step! I would be a happier person if I had significantly fewer orgasms (currently about 90% occur on my own) while enjoying a better sex life overall. I’m sure you’ll know exactly what I mean!