My spouse enjoys accessorizing and selecting outfits for her friends, which was the initial step in getting her interested in chastity. She considers herself to have relatively few “kinks,” though she has an interest in lingerie, vintage fashion, and organizing social gatherings. I purchased a CB6000 from a local shop so we could test out being locked up during the December holiday break. However, she felt that the transparent color was somewhat dull. That wouldn’t do!
That comment sparked an idea for me. It was time to go shopping! I discovered numerous styles and colors available for cages, which really got her excited about choosing one for me. She spent a good amount of time browsing through them and selected several options she liked in different hues. Ultimately, she chose the teal Holy Trainer V3.
We created a brief agreement regarding chastity that specifically noted I cannot bring up the topic unless she does first (unless it concerns health or maintenance). I wore the cage for another couple of weeks, with some playtime interspersed, and then we put it away for several months. Now we are just past those few days into wearing it again, and things feel more “fun” than they have in a long time.
The extra attention I give her now, combined with the cage’s stylish look, is making her more at ease with the concept. She checks on the device most mornings to ensure I’ve put it on (I don’t sleep in it) and says “good boy” when she sees it. She does worry about my comfort a bit, but I reassure her that wearing it isn’t “uncomfortable” and everything is fine.
We’ll see how things develop! We had some wonderful playtime last night, and she seemed to enjoy the control. Perhaps she is seeing the benefits. Fortunately, before bed last night, I was instructed to put my cage back on first thing in the morning. Yes ma’am! Work in progress: Resisting the urge to bring up chastity (it’s against the rules) constantly. I’m not doing it yet, but the desire is there. Raising her comfort level with control without trying to manage the situation myself.
Successes: The cage is comfortable and my maintenance routine is established. She loves the extra attention from me and seems quite aroused. Sex has become much less stressful in this new dynamic. Usually, it takes me a while to reach orgasm, and occasionally performance anxiety gets the better of me. I typically don’t like being the center of attention, so having my orgasm serve as an indicator of her “success” as a partner used to be bothersome. Now, however, I am fighting off that urge, and her criteria for success have shifted. Win win!