Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

But not necessarily because of the chastity. My wife has kept me locked up for two weeks now and I’m feeling a bit anxious about it. Earlier this morning, I hinted that I would like to fool around with her and she said that we would see how things went. I brought it up again at lunch and explained that I was feeling overcome with lust for her. She got upset and said “This is exactly why we can’t get chastity to work - you are too demanding. I thought this was supposed to be about me but it’s always about you. Unlike other women that are into chastity, I don’t want a love slave who does everything for me and always wants to serve me. I just want to be left alone to go about my business.” I found it hard to express myself when confronted with that statement. The fantasy of chastity is, in big part, serving your woman but my wife really could give two shits about that except to make it clear that she isn’t interested in it. I’m also feeling very submissive to her so I find it hard to discuss these things without being “meek” which she cannot stand either. Doing the best I could, I said that I was sorry for upsetting her and suggested that I tried to explain my feelings previously and, without direction from her (she is very quiet and withdrawn about relationship stuff - chastity or not), my mind led me down its own paths. I said that I wanted to continue trying and if she would provide some guidance I would be able to get my head straight and act the way she wanted. I also told her that I’m at the point where I am starting to seriously want out so I’m doing everything I can to resist upsetting her to the point where she wants to call it quits. She said that if we stop, I cannot ever bring it up again because she doesn’t want to spend the next 50 years trying and failing to implement chastity in our lives. I asked her if she wanted to continue and she said that we are continuing. Bottom line is she wants me to accept being locked in and not annoy her all the time with requests to do things for her (housework, sexual, anything really) and to stop talking about the chastity. This seems like a big departure from the fantasy and I need to re-think whether I want to continue. Your advice is welcome. Do you think she will become more “engaged” and dominant over time? Do you think she will become used to my lowered role and start taking advantage of her new situation? Or should I just say hell with it and give it up?