Let me clarify first: anytime there is posting or chatting on this site, it will always be initiated by the female—never the male. A little about us: we have been happily married for thirty-three years and are using chastity to reconnect and re-energize our relationship. After a bit over a year together in this dynamic, it feels like time to start keeping a journal here. This space will explain where we stand now and how we arrived at that point.
After many years with virtually no sexual activity unless My Darling (the submissive) initiated it, we began exploring our connection and discussing the missing urges on my part. During these explorations online, I learned more about female ejaculation, often called squirting. It struck me as interesting that a woman could also ejaculate much like a man does, even while her partner was locked up simultaneously. After some trial and error, I figured out how to squirt myself and showed him the technique for my pleasure.
I also scoured the internet and found a knockoff device that looked promising. Following much discussion, we ordered it for him. However, this came with many complications: pinching issues, incorrect sizing, ordering extra devices that didn’t work well, until finally settling on the Queens Keep by Mature Metal. That process took us about six months to find the right device and fit for him.
Now the adventures continue. He is set to handle vacuuming, cooking, and laundry, though none of these tasks are new to him; this is simply how our lives work anyway.
We are now living the lifestyle full-time—he wears a cage when I desire it, I determine the lock-up duration, and release him whenever I choose. I am not big on punishment because I really don’t see the need since he has always taken care of me excellently. Teasing isn’t done regularly but occurs whenever I deem fit. He pleases me at my convenience, and sometimes I allow him a ruined orgasm or edge him if he has performed well or simply when I feel like it.
I struggle with trying new things; I am rather vanilla and not particularly dominant in personality. We enjoy this site to read about various topics and gather fresh ideas.