I’ve been wearing the lock for three weeks now, which marks my fourth time doing so. I showed this idea to my wife on our anniversary by handing over the key to the device. She wasn’t scared off but has remained quite passive up to now. It’s been over three weeks since my last orgasm—a real challenge—but I trust she’ll grow comfortable with it and begin asserting some authority.
Why am I doing this? Our intimacy has suffered a deep rut for some time. Since she seemed uninterested, I handled things myself by masturbating. These extended periods without sex made her wonder if I was being faithful in other ways; while she’s always accepted my solo sessions, she questioned whether I might be paying for massages or worse elsewhere. I haven’t been, but couldn’t fully convince her of that. That’s why the chastity concept came up.
The more I researched it, the better it looked—it would curb my masturbation habit, directing more focus toward her arousal and desire. It also offers solid proof against cheating; even if I wanted to stray physically, I simply can’t with this setup. Beyond that, I view it as a lifestyle shift: I want her to occasionally take charge of me, literally controlling my cock and deciding when I’m permitted to cum again. I hope she embraces it fully, perhaps even enjoying some whipping or more intensity.
Currently, I am locked tight without any release in sight, aside from once-a-week washing. If I asked her now for freedom—or suggested we drop the whole thing—she’d likely say yes. So I could leave and masturbate freely, yet our relationship dynamic would remain unchanged. My plan is to endure as long as possible, hoping she takes control in return so we can truly walk this path together.