Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Dear everyone, this morning I found out with sadness that I can escape from my neosteel arch. as you might guess, I’m feeling quite devastated. this was the second time around for me with a neosteel arch. either way, I must push ahead and keep moving forward. It is becoming more evident every day that PA offers the most reliable path to secure chastity. so here I am, looking for some guidance a bit of background info: I have a grower type body And I do not shave my head (uncut) could someone walk me through how PA works? I went through the first 10 or so threads that popped up when I searched this site on the subject. I’m still puzzled about whether to get pierced at size vs stretching it out. what gauge should I aim for to wear a PA device well? How long does it take to reach that gauge? any suggestions for devices? I want something for long term use; so the device needs to allow good cleaning without taking it off is there anything else I ought to worry about? Kind Regards, Chastiff