Apologies for the scattered updates; my wife and I are just starting out in chastity. After ten months of experimenting, we’re shifting our focus to make it a central part of our lifestyle rather than BDSM, which feels too demanding as we age—I don’t recover quite as quickly anymore.:)
My personal best for abstaining from any kind of orgasm is five weeks, or thereabouts. We’ve kicked off this new chapter with a five-month lock-up period designed to grant me an orgasm on our most significant date. My wife wants proof that I’m truly committed, and I want to see if I can pull it off. The big question for me: at what point does the lack of an orgasm become more manageable? Typically, around two weeks in, I start feeling restless, and by week three, I’m practically pleading for release. It gets a bit better after that because there’s always hope on the horizon; knowing relief is coming helps. At my age, five months feels like eternity—I might actually pass away before then! So to me, it seems incredibly long. If this persistent urge doesn’t settle down into something bearable, I’m not sure how I’ll survive.
I could really use some support right now. I’ve been tossing and turning in bed worrying about it all night. Plus, I’m spending much more time locked up—even during sleep—so I wonder if that constant confinement is making things tougher. I enjoy the denial aspect, but sometimes my body has its own plans (something I learned from past mistakes when I let myself slip).:) Is there a sort of “Chastity Anonymous” or twelve-step program out there? Nobody close to me seems to think what I’m doing is just for fun, so I lack someone to talk to. My wife is set on denying me; she’s convinced that if I really wanted an orgasm while with her, I’d find a way to do it anyway. Since quitting masturbation ten months ago, I’ve been trying hard not to get back into the habit because I have compulsive tendencies in certain areas.
I even took time off work just so I could stay home alone and indulge until my skin got raw.