Sex Therapist's Plan for My Porn and Masthabitation Issues with a Device

For ages, my wife has been nagging me about my addiction to computer porn and masturbation, complaining that I neglect her in bed. She took me to a sex therapist who proposed a treatment plan using a medical device known as an anti-porn aide—what we typically call a “chastity device.” While the video linked below is funny, it captures exactly how I felt during my session.

The instructions were:

1. My wife would lock me in the anti-porn aide (the break-in phase). She’d leave for part of the day and come back to unlock me.
2. A filter blocking porn sites would be installed on my computer, with her holding the password.
3. To unblock the sites temporarily, I had to ask my wife directly. However, if she went away for more than a day, the sites would stay open automatically.
4. If she wasn’t in the mood for sex, she’d just keep the filter off. But if she wanted intimacy, I was required to perform the act and reach an orgasm. If I refused her advances, she’d re-lock me in the aide. It stays on until either the porn filter is turned back on or we have sex.
5. The device remains locked only when my wife desires sex, I decline, but still want access to the filtered sites. She doesn’t need to climax for this arrangement; if I satisfy her and reach orgasm myself, it holds.
6. My wife cannot refuse sex with me.
7. In this dynamic, the therapist acts as the physician (psychologist), while my wife serves as the nurse practitioner. She cares for me but adheres strictly to the doctor’s orders. Her primary duty is guarding me against porn websites.
8. If I want to view porn, she must drop what she’s doing to unblock the filter or initiate sex. The same applies when I request removal of the aide. The first hurdle was my fear; I hesitated to let her lock it because I worried about losing my ability to orgasm. Fortunately, the therapist anticipated this and reassured me that feeling afraid is part of the process. She mentioned that another patient had told her men will do practically anything to escape the device. The goal for the initial breaking period was a single session to transfer control from the porn websites to my wife. I expected strong urges to masturbate, which would eventually shift my fixation toward my wife rather than the screen. Since I couldn’t bring myself to let her lock it in the private office area, she plans to assist me with this phobia during our next visit. After leaving, I simulated wearing the device and found that masturbating became nearly impossible. The anxiety was intense; I really wanted to jerk off. Pretending to be locked made me horny, yet the realization that I couldn’t masturbate actually caused physical nausea. That night, I pressed my member against a pillow and managed an orgasm without using my hands—a feat usually rare for me because I prefer manual stimulation. The therapist was right: most men will do anything to get it off. Now I need to confirm whether my wife’s authority outweighs the pull of porn. She likened the situation to animal trainers who establish dominance immediately upon introduction. For the next appointment, we’ll tackle my phobia by having her lock me in during our private office visit, so if anxiety strikes, I can get help from the therapist directly. Afterward, she will drop me off at home but keep her cell phone nearby for emergencies. There is a specific duration required while locked, though it remains unknown. The therapist explained that just as dogs love their feeder, men obsess over whoever controls and provides their release. Because my access to porn, device removal, and climax all depend on my wife, my focus will shift entirely to her. My mindset will change. The immediate objective isn’t necessarily stopping porn consumption but re-establishing sexual connection with a real woman. Years ago, before the rise of attractive lesbian cheerleader content online, there was less competition for wives’ attention. Internet technology currently favors the screens against the wife; the filter and aide are countermeasures against the website owners. The core issue isn’t masturbation itself, but our inability to cope with modern technology that we haven’t biologically evolved to handle. During a private moment, she noted I have a caring wife who sometimes becomes power-hungry or manipulative when husbands ask for device removal. For instance, she might say, “Sure, once I finish this task—if you helped me it would be quicker.” Taking advantage of vulnerable partners is considered unethical. Some wives delay unlocking because they fear losing the honeymoon-phase infatuation post-orgasm or enjoy keeping their partner aroused. A red flag to watch for is if she says, “I’m scared to remove it because I think you’ll stop loving me as much.” If this happens, call her office immediately; otherwise, demands will escalate. Also, stick with plastic devices rather than titanium. My wife was briefed on all of this separately from me. She warned that while we hope for long-term continuity in our therapy provider, changing therapists later requires caution regarding unethical practitioners who may lack proper credentials. These questionable therapists often align financially with the wife (since she pays) and assist her in manipulating her husband. If I encounter such a case, I must gather documentation and report it to the licensing board because, as she put it, “This is not just a game.” If I do wear the device long-term, urological monitoring for safety will be necessary. The psychologist’s assessment indicated that if I choose porn over sex with my wife while wearing the aid, I’ll essentially beg her to unlock me. Once unlocked, the filter re-engages until after intercourse. She stated that 99.999% of men would do anything to escape the device within five minutes of viewing porn, but continuous urological monitoring is still required as long as it’s on. Viagra could be an alternative path for this addiction plan. I know my mental health is impacted because struggling to get erect during real sex, compared to masturbation, signals a deeper issue. I will ask if we can skip the break-in phase and proceed with the rest of the protocol. What should I do? Are there any husbands here familiar with similar experiences? Is her advice sound or quackery?