Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

I’ve been looking around the forums for a while, but I only just signed up today. The reason? I could use some guidance getting used to this practice. A bit of insight might be useful. My significant other and key holder saw it as an enjoyable activity since our intimacy life isn’t strictly conventional. While I’m mostly the submissive at home, I usually take charge elsewhere in my daily life. Regardless, I wasn’t initially eager about trying it; she had to plant small hints over time for me to warm up to the concept. Seems okay so far? We officially began last week, but honestly, it feels dull right now. It’s giving me nothing—absolutely nothing. I know what the issue is: I keep trying to lead from a subordinate position. How can I stop doing that? She has liked the experience, yet my moodiness has made things less enjoyable for her. I want us to continue because I sense there will be fun ahead eventually. Any suggestions or advice would really help.