We’ve spent some time exploring and learning since my wife requested rougher sex. At first, she wanted to be dominated and controlled in the bedroom, even though we didn’t know much about D/s yet. As we researched more, we experimented with various things like rope, bedroom bondage, orgasm control/denial, forced orgasms, anal play, and swapping roles. We’ve discovered what works for us; she really enjoys controlling my orgasms through denial. She then decided that a chastity cage would help reinforce this control and denial. Since good cages can be pricey, we started using a frenum ring to mimic one. (I have a 5-bar frenum ladder and a reverse PA.) When the frenum ring is in place instead of the curved barbell, I am effectively “caged.” This has worked pretty well because our focus so far has been on teasing and denial, allowing her plenty of opportunity to do both. In our D/s dynamic, I’m essentially her toy.
Recently at a vendor event, she spotted a leather-and-steel locking cock cage that caught her eye. I tracked down (or something similar) it on sale at and placed an order. It arrived yesterday, so I put it on right away. Once she realized the surprise, she insisted we try it out immediately. She spent about an hour playing with me while watching her usual TV shows. We are completely hooked on caging me for her use now, and she’s become quite skilled at teasing me for her amusement.
Because this cage isn’t custom-made and is constructed from leather and steel, it won’t be ideal for long-term wear right away. This weekend we’re testing it with various underwear and pants to determine its limits. The two obvious drawbacks are that the uncustomized oversized steel shows clearly and my piercings clang against the cage’s metal. We’ll see how it goes… But I’m excited about being under her control.
She doesn’t know yet, but I’ve already ordered a Lori’s #15 cage! I can’t wait to surprise her with it. It is one of three styles she likes. Since the #15 features an open head, it’s her top pick because it allows for easy teasing. We also really like a customized version of the Jail Bird (which has extra cross bars/rings) and a design concept based on Steelwerks that would incorporate my piercings.
So we take another step forward in our journey…