I stumbled upon this wonderful forum a couple of days ago and signed up tonight. It feels like I fit right in with the regular posters.
My wife and I have been delving into BDSM throughout our entire 19-year marriage, but things shifted dramatically over the last two years.
That is when she chose to cuckold me, though perhaps I should clarify what that means for us. We had experienced a lighter version of cuckolding before—casual, non-serious flings here and there. Those were like little playful erotic games between us.
This current phase began similarly but evolved quickly into something quite different.
I am now seriously, and it seems permanently, cuckolded.
Regarding her affair: he spends at least 90% of his weekends right here in our house, usually arriving on Friday morning or evening and staying until Monday. This routine has been consistent almost from the very beginning.
Over these past two years, all our vacations have involved either the three of us together or just my wife and her lover. They’ve traveled to both Hawaii and Vancouver Island as a couple alone, with another trip to Hawaii planned for February for just them.
She makes no attempt to hide their relationship; all our friends and neighbors know about it, and I assume most extended family members are aware too.
Finally, regarding the cuckolding dynamic: I have been banned from her bedroom and their erotic games. When this started two years ago, I occasionally got to participate or watch, as we had done in previous experiences. However, she quickly decided she preferred doing without me. Now, my closest involvement is listening to the moans and cries drifting up from her room to mine.
She made all these decisions independently, without consulting or discussing them with me.
The above is a somewhat dry account of our current situation, but I hope it doesn’t mislead anyone. I am actually quite thrilled by it.
Most importantly, she is very happy—much happier than she ever was when we were just the two of us. Sometimes I wish he wasn’t here every weekend so we could have more private time, but I delight in the fact that she essentially moved a boyfriend into our home without even asking me first. She has him right in her bedroom. If confidence is intoxicating, then I am drunk on hers.
It is humiliating to socialize with people who know about my cuckoldry, especially when friends visit and she shows affection toward him rather than me. Humiliating as it is, the experience gives me a huge erotic charge. I do wish I could watch them together occasionally, but there’s also excitement in knowing that she feels free enough to ban me from even that privilege.
Another drastic change in these two years has been our sex life—or rather, its absence.
The first thing she did was ban me from intercourse. She made this decision a year and a month ago and hasn’t looked back since. I firmly believe that over a year ago, I entered my wife for the last time in this lifetime.
Shortly after, within weeks, I was banned from giving her oral sex. She had stopped receiving it many years prior because she felt it was too submissive an act to offer. Interestingly, she doesn’t give oral sex to her boyfriend either, for exactly that same reason; yes, he is submissive to her and gives her plenty of excellent oral service herself.
Returning to my situation: I also firmly believe I kissed my wife’s beautiful cunt for the last time almost a year ago.
Last in this progression was being banned from touching any of her erogenous zones erotically. It has been many months since I touched her breasts, neck, and cunt with erotic intent. I don’t think that will happen again in this lifetime either.
However, I am allowed to kiss and lick her pretty little asshole every week or two. This is a favorite fetish of mine, so it’s always enjoyable. That said, it feels like a privilege on shaky ground. I get to do it because it doesn’t overly excite her boyfriend, allowing me the occasional leftovers from him. If he ever truly gets into it deeply, or if she finds another partner who loves it just as much, I’ll be banned from that too and may have to move my attention to her underarms, feet, shoes, or other leftover zones.
Again, she made all these decisions without talking them through with me. I was simply expected to obey.
Regarding sex, though, I don’t want the wrong impression taken either. I find it wildly erotic that I am banned from intercourse—a huge turn-on for not even getting to lick her to orgasm—and oh so sexy that I’m not allowed to touch her breasts or cunt at all.
As mentioned earlier, we have been married for 19 years. It has always been a strong marriage, but it is stronger now than ever before. She receives excellent oral sex regularly from a man who turns her on tremendously, while I remain in a state of near-constant arousal. Even through this extreme dynamic, we haven’t lost sight that cuckolding should enhance our marriage rather than harm it. In fact, neither of us has likely ever been more in love with the other than we are right now.
Our relationship is certainly radical, but good and strong.
To answer all her decisions outlined above: yes, I did as required; I obeyed. It’s often difficult, but generally, I am cheerfully cuckolded and cheerfully cut off from sexual contact with my wife.
Now our relationship is set to change again. She has decided to ramp up the verbal humiliation I experience, both when we are alone and among our kinky friends. She intends for my own ass to become my primary center of sexual pleasure, so she plans to work it extensively using plugs and a strap-on. Lastly—and most importantly—she has decided that severe orgasm denial is imminent.
She believes that since I can no longer give her an orgasm, I don’t deserve them myself. She also loves the idea of me hearing her boyfriend cum while being denied my own release. Finally, she wants a concrete reminder for me that only her sexual satisfaction truly matters in our relationship.
Her plan is not to use devices but rather focused mental conditioning and that specific fear which compels obedience regarding her other new demands from this past year. I have no choice but to obey because I know how serious she is about my compliance; if I fail, she will discard me. That knowledge introduces a measure of genuine fear into the mix, making obedience easier for me. It’s also incredibly sexy knowing that she focuses so intently on my submission that she’ll exercise her ultimate option if needed. As she tells me, my obedience has shifted from being a game to becoming true reality.
We are quite sure mistakes and weaknesses will occur, but I will do my best to allow myself to be properly conditioned for her and to obey her wishes. I believe we will succeed in controlling my orgasms for long periods.
Regarding timing, she is currently thinking that once every six weeks sounds about right. She intends to work me up to this frequency slowly, though not too gradually.
She doesn’t believe in using ruined orgasms just to clean things out; instead, I will be milked quite frequently. She has enjoyed milking men for many years and is very experienced with aneros devices, her fingers, and PES electrical tools.
I don’t know the exact start date of these new restrictions, but I assume within the next week or two. Honestly, I am quite excited about it because chastity has always been a major fantasy for me.
We probably would have experimented with chastity in the past, but she worried it might disrupt our sex life in ways she didn’t want. With no sex life now, though, it seems like the ideal time. I suppose that’s a long enough intro!