Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

A lovely little Mistress Watchful puzzle for everyone to figure out!:sex020: What should a Domme do if her submissive is against corporal punishment? I love the sound of spanking and whipping, and I think it’s a fantastic way to correct a submissive and teach them right from wrong. Personally, I am a pain slut, so I find few things more pleasurable than the noise and sting these events create. pet dislikes pain! The easy answer might be “Who’s in charge? Whip away Mistress Watchful!” but is that really right? Everyone here knows me. They know I wouldn’t thrash pet to within an inch of his life… yet when I recall the spanking session I gave him, and fantasize about tying him up, gagging him, and cropping his bare behind… sigh So my question is - does it count as consensual if pet “puts up with” punishment because he knows what I deem necessary? If he is truly anti-pain, would I be abusive to administer it? Or, given that I know he hates pain but has his safe word… if I punished him physically in the middle of a scene, would it still be consensual if he didn’t retaliate? Not looking for a legal debate, just wondering for my own peace of mind. Sometimes I think a good hiding might clear up several issues around here!