Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

I have been part of this community for five or six years, and during those initial ones, my wife was unaware of my desire to stay chaste! A lot has shifted since then, and I feel fortunate that she now holds the key while I remain locked. However, we aren’t living in a dream world; we are both 57, with children from earlier relationships who have all left home so to speak! So it’s just us and two cats! Doesn’t this create an opportunity for some kinky activities? She might tie me up and tease me? Make me handle the household tasks? Enjoy her own pleasure while I observe? The truth is we both work hard, arriving home exhausted most evenings at 57. My wife has gone through menopause, so sexual intimacy is usually not on our radar. Even when it happens, she enjoys ‘pleasuring’ herself! My question is this: I would love for her to join this site. I have shown her the forums without letting her know I had a profile yet you can see quite a bit just by browsing! Here is where the difficulty lies for her! She believes most of what we do regarding chastity and kink is purely fantasy, so she isn’t particularly interested! Do other wives view our community in the same way?