Sorry for being quiet lately. I love reading everyone’s updates and chipping in with replies, but I haven’t really shared much about my wife (KH) and how we’ve been enjoying our life over the last few years.
We kicked things off at the end of 2005 as an on-again, off-again thing, mostly teasing and denial where I had to pleasure her without using my cock. When I switched jobs in 2007, we could take it more seriously with longer lock ups. By 2009, we were managing up to 13 weeks at a time without me climaxing, relying on other ways to satisfy her unless luck was on our side (we built this up slowly from one week, then two, three, etc.).
By then, we’d both gotten more comfortable with anal play. My wife became very keen on milking me and pleasuring me through that route rather than just penile stimulation. We haven’t quite nailed it yet, but we’re sticking at it; there was a mishap the other night where she gave enough stimulus for me to cum (more of a ruined release, really).
From the beginning, it’s been more or less “topping from the bottom.” My wife started off very vanilla when we met, but now she clearly prefers taking charge. We still have occasional switch moments, which keeps things interesting.
Back to the main update: we took a breather in mid-2009 for a few months and are now fully back into chastity play. We’re extending the time (with specific clauses) and really enjoying it; my wife is currently loving anal dilators as she stretches me out.
Her goal is to use a large dildo on me since I enjoy that kind of fun, but because her preferred size is quite big, we’ll see how it goes.
Over the last couple of weeks, there’s been a dramatic shift in my wife. She loves fucking me with our toys and extending the lock up period, and she talks excitedly about what she plans to do once she manages to milk me successfully. Her plan is to pleasure me using only the toys while completely restricting my orgasm (which I want too), but it seems like she’s going all out.
Last night was a real surprise (whether due to reading your posts or watching some videos we found): she wants me to beg her to fuck me with the toys. Part of that bargain is that I have to suck the toy first, and if my job isn’t good enough, she won’t use it—lol, what a change! Also, when she finally milks me or lets me cum, she expects me to lick the fluids off her breasts.
There are a few other positive changes in her that I’ll hold back for now because I want to see if she’s consciously aware of them and how we can help these evolve.
Overall, it’s been a bit slow, then fast, but great fun. It has definitely brought us closer together and helped us understand our needs (not just mine) and the best ways to meet them. Our pace might seem slower compared to some of you here, but honestly, I’m happy with how we’ve progressed since chastity play can be quite confusing.
There it is—sorry for the ramble! I promise to post more often about what we get up to and engage more with your posts too. Looking forward to a very interesting year.