I wanted to try and explain how being a submissive feels because I feel that subs sometimes get rather criticized at times, though I don’t want my words to come across as just ranting against our Dominants.
The toughest part of describing the sub experience is capturing the wide range of emotions you go through. One minute you are deep in a trance-like sub space, and the next you snap back down to reality with a thud.
It’s difficult to put into words what it feels like inside that headspace. It seems almost primitive, but more importantly, much more submissive than usual. I often feel as though I would do anything for my Master and wish he would order me to do things that are normally considered hard limits for me.
You shift from this profound feeling of submission to suddenly watching TV, feeling incredibly horny and eager to be dominated.
No wonder submissives seem so needy. That is likely what makes the dominant’s life harder—the nature of the submissive person. Sometimes I feel dominants don’t realize the emotional toll subs endure daily, not just from day to day but minute by minute.
So why submit? You might ask me to stop complaining and moaning. It comes down to a strong desire. For me, there is an innate need to submit alongside that wish to sink into my sub space state. The feelings of pleasure, pain, and humiliation wash over you, driving you wild with want and making you beg for more. This is what makes exiting subspace so difficult; one could call it an addiction.
Now you can see how hard it is to transition from a submissive who only wants to serve, be humiliated, and played with, back to being part of a normal couple watching TV or handling chores. Chores aren’t so bad if I am wearing a collar or my maid outfit; those items make them more enjoyable. Sometimes I just want to wear a collar, a butt plug, or some jewelry even when we are out of our ‘roles’, something small to remind me of my submissive side.
Do dominants share similar feelings? Is there such a thing as dom space? It would be nice to read how they feel while in their roles.
I hope this helps express the deep emotions submissives experience. I also hope it doesn’t sound too preachy.
I simply desire to submit and sit at my Master’s feet.
Oh, I forgot to mention that males are often kept in chastity without release for weeks or even months, which could drive a weaker man mad. It takes a strong man to submit and hand over control of his reproductive organ to his dominant.