As our connection has grown, much like many of yours, we have picked up and experimented with various chastity-related items over time. More than a year back, my KH received a strap-on which she used on two occasions, and lately she’s hinted at using it again to integrate it more deeply into our dynamic (no pun intended). I asked her what benefits she gets from the experience because I often worry that she does everything primarily for her own pleasure. She answered with just one word: “Power”. At first, this turned me on, but her follow-up comment really sealed it.
“Is it having an appendage that gives you that feeling?” She replied, “If you believe I need another appendage to wield power over you, then you’re mistaken.” This sparked another lovely and honest conversation which I truly appreciate with my KH. She pointed out that what appeals to me is the release from the device. While partly true, she noted that I also enjoy the restriction itself. I admitted that nowadays I find happiness both in being released or remaining denied. It has become a win-win situation for me now. That’s why I keep focusing on her needs since mine are being met.