“So my partner and I have been cycling through periods of chastity over time, enjoying it both ways but I struggle with confidence as a key holder or dominant figure. This lack of self-assurance gets in the way, making me feel like my man doesn’t think I’m fully engaged. Open to all suggestions!”
"Start small. For many in chastity, the crucial part is avoiding feelings of neglect. He's likely thinking about it more than you realize and probably has certain expectations. Discuss these with him to understand what they are. Keep what suits you and discard what doesn't; after all, you set the rules. To help avoid that sense of being ignored, try setting a daily reminder to tease him slightly. It doesn't need to be elaborate; simply acknowledging his predicament can suffice. Like any skill, your proficiency will improve with practice. When he begs for release, remember it's what he desires, so you aren't obligated to comply if you prefer not to. Confidence grows gradually. -O"