Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Sure! We practice chastity without humiliation. I don’t believe in gender or race superiority either. I submit to my wife, and give her complete ownership of all my sexual pleasure. She focuses on making me a “good boy”. Perhaps the “pet” language could be considered humiliating. But she loves me. She’s gentle hearted, but firm in her control... confident in demeanor. There’s no need to degrade or shout or belittle. She owns me and I’m cherished. I’d call it gentle-femdom on the whole. I think femininity is beautiful. I adore women. They make me smile. Making me or her feminine is not a focus for us. We just are. I’ve become such a better friend, husband, lover, and submissive once I shed all the trappings and story-lines you read and watch that surround chastity. I started my path December 2013. I gave up masturbation cold turkey for over three months. I submitted to her daily without expectations. Well I struggled to keep friendly and kind and sweet and giving and helpful without expecting anything in return. Making her smile and happy was my goal. She blossomed as my dominant owner over these past five years. She encouraged me to get pierced, and watched over as it happened. Chastity finally “clicked” for her later in 2014 as something positive. She preferred “well behaved” demeanor when I was locked and actively participated once I was secured by a piercing in my custom steel Contender. She encourages me to mind how I spend my time, my health, my mental state. She’s taken complete ownership of my self pleasuring as of 2017, and she’s prepared to do this for the rest of her days (recent conversation). Nothing worked like the fantasy stories of porn. It all slowly grew from my shedding expectations, negative emotions, “angling to be punished”, and letting her lead. She does feed off my frustration and constant arousal. She likes me better this way. The chastity and orgasm denial is a huge positive for us. Some days I wish it wasn’t as necessary, but we’ve established a new foundation for our relationship. This lauded has melded into our everyday lives. So we get a long, slow, simmering heat that we bask in. We get an everyday D/s relationship that doesn’t need scenes. I’m simply expected to not touch my cock - locked or not. The power exchange is done. My struggle is merely to cope and she loves watching it. There’s a lot of positive male chastity relationships out there. I’m grateful to have found some. I had to get past the porn and wank-fodder to find it. Good luck! I hope you get more responses. I am heartwarmed to read about positive relationships that involve male chastity.

There is no reason to over-think it. Chastity to me is an extension of a bedroom tease and denial. Many vanilla couples do it (as in bedroom t&d) without thinking much because it can be fun, brings a bit of challenge along the "normal activity." Chastity can be treated the same way without any humiliation (and like @Peter Rabbit mentioned, race / gender superiority or really any other). Cheers.

> Peter Rabbit said: > Sure! We practice chastity without humiliation. I don’t believe in gender or race superiority either. I submit to my wife, and give her complete ownership of all my sexual pleasure. She focuses on making me a “good boy”. Perhaps the “pet” language could be considered humiliating. But she loves me. > She’s gentle hearted, but firm in her control... confident in demeanor. There’s no need to degrade or shout or belittle. She owns me and I’m cherished. I’d call it gentle-femdom on the whole. > I think femininity is beautiful. I adore women. They make me smile. Making me or her feminine is not a focus for us. We just are. > I’ve become such a better friend, husband, lover, and submissive once I shed all the trappings and story-lines you read and watch that surround chastity. I started my path December 2013. I gave up masturbation cold turkey for over three months. I submitted to her daily without expectations. Well I struggled to keep friendly and kind and sweet and giving and helpful without expecting anything in return. Making her smile and happy was my goal. > She blossomed as my dominant owner over these past five years. She encouraged me to get pierced, and watched over as it happened. Chastity finally “clicked” for her later in 2014 as something positive. She preferred “well behaved” demeanor when I was locked and actively participated once I was secured by a piercing in my custom steel Contender. > She encourages me to mind how I spend my time, my health, my mental state. She’s taken complete ownership of my self pleasuring as of 2017, and she’s prepared to do this for the rest of her days (recent conversation). > Nothing worked like the fantasy stories of porn. It all slowly grew from my shedding expectations, negative emotions, “angling to be punished”, and letting her lead. > She does feed off my frustration and constant arousal. She likes me better this way. The chastity and orgasm denial is a huge positive for us. Some days I wish it wasn’t as necessary, but we’ve established a new foundation for our relationship. This lauded has melded into our everyday lives. > So we get a long, slow, simmering heat that we bask in. We get an everyday D/s relationship that doesn’t need scenes. I’m simply expected to not touch my cock - locked or not. > The power exchange is done. My struggle is merely to cope and she loves watching it. > There’s a lot of positive male chastity relationships out there. I’m grateful to have found some. I had to get past the porn and wank-fodder to find it. > Good luck! I hope you get more responses. I am heartwarmed to read about positive relationships that involve male chastity. > Click to expand... Thank you so much for sharing your experience in such a long and detailed way!! I really appreciate it. The way you started, it's what i think it's best. Let things grow/develop naturally... no pressure, no hurry... no porn or non-sense... just you. her and the love that connects you both. Great!! Love your experience!!

> CattowerCat said: > There is no reason to over-think it. Chastity to me is an extension of a bedroom tease and denial. Many vanilla couples do it (as in bedroom t&d) without thinking much because it can be fun, brings a bit of challenge along the "normal activity." Chastity can be treated the same way without any humiliation (and like @Peter Rabbit mentioned, race / gender superiority or really any other). > Cheers. > Click to expand... Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I like you down to earth approach and to see it as an extension of bedroom games. Cool!

I have no interest in humiliation but I do understand how some might enjoy it even if it's only harmless role playing. My issue is that having actively dressed female secretly from a very young age I had a lot of self-loathing and hatred for what I saw back then as some kind of sickness In many ways I actively punished and humiliated myself for many years. In the end once I accepted I was always going to be this way and learnt to appreciate and find some peace with it, I swore I would never degrade myself again or allow another person to. The annoying part of that is I can't even listen to a lot of femdom hypnosis which has many positive feminising benefits because the language used hurts and even offends me, especially when it's themed to make me think less of myself. The same goes for a large amount of sissy content because while I do have some kinks I feel I'm transgender and not a sissy, but for some reason I find sissies nicer to talk to because they don't try to push me into things which I don't want for myself. Trans forums in my experience don't seem to care what I want so I come to sites like this one where I won't be seen as an outcast. Specifically concerning chastity I find it helps balance me out. You talk about spirituality and feminine energy and I feel the same way about it because it's always there. Sometimes it's stronger, other times it's subdued and when I believe I am shifting too much towards the masculine I make sure to wear my device. In a sense it's a period of enforcement to condition my thinking back towards what makes me feel better. I can go weeks in chastity or just a few days it just depends but I do know it helps me to refocus.