Hi everyone,
I’m posting this to say hello and also to capture how I feel right now. This way, in six or twelve months’ time, I can look back and have a clear baseline for where things stand.
My wife and I have been married for almost 20 years. Like many couples (or so I suspect), our sex life has cooled down somewhat. Lately, I’ve found myself just wanting to reach climax and then drift off to sleep, not worrying too much about what she needs. My libido is higher than hers, which makes me a bit grumpy when I don’t get enough attention.
Over the past year or so, I’ve been wondering how to handle this situation, so I started looking into chastity devices. Reading up on denial helped me understand how it could shift my focus toward her needs rather than just mine. Since wrapping up a major project at work, I decided it was time to bring it up.
I purchased two options: one made of resin and another solid steel device. A week ago, with some hesitation, I locked myself into the plastic cage to test the fit (being on the larger side, I worried about discomfort). On that same day, I wrote a letter to my wife explaining why I thought this would benefit her too. Feeling quite nervous, I handed her the envelope while heading off for a morning shower. I asked her to text me with the word ‘locked’ if she wanted to give it a try. While I was under water, my phone buzzed. A bit anxious, I checked the message: ‘Locked x’.
We sat down together and discussed everything; I handed over both keys. Honestly, I still have no idea where they are now.
It’s amazing how much has shifted in just a week. My entire relationship dynamic has transformed. I am completely attuned to her needs, and she is delighted to take control of my member. We’re kissing constantly and cuddling more than ever before. She let me out after that first week for our scheduled date night, and it felt like we were teenagers again. In the bedroom, she wants me to call her Mistress, and she has fully embraced the concept of denial and punishment by delaying my next release. After one week of 24/7 wear, I have a new release date set: 35 days from today. During this time, only she can clean me; I’m not allowed to touch myself.
The main drawback is that my foreskin has become quite sensitive and slightly swollen. We’ve talked about whether circumcision would help with hygiene while locked in, but we agreed to wait until the next release day to make a final decision on that.
She looks so happy—and I feel just as good.
I really love the sensation of the tight tube around me and can hardly imagine what it will be like when I get my freedom again soon. Everything feels right and natural here.
My wife is thrilled with how things are going and thinks the cage suits me well.
Her basic ground rules (which she set) state that I am allowed one orgasm per month. If she achieves more than ten orgasms in a given month, I might get a day or two shaved off my next release date. However, every time I show disrespect, my punishment is an automatic extension of the release date by another week.
I feel incredibly lucky.