Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Hi everyone! I’ve been reading here for ages, but this is my first time actually posting. Let me introduce myself a bit. My interest in BDSM has lasted as long as I can recall. Once I got that initial set of toy handcuffs, nothing else really mattered… As someone who tends to be shy, it was mostly just some gentle self-bondage at the start. Over time and with age, I discovered chastity devices. Boy, did they suit me. I experimented intermittently, usually locking myself up, though a few past girlfriends held the keys for me. One of my ex-roommates’ partners even took charge (that was a solid two-week stretch). Fast forward ten years: marriage happened. My wife enjoyed some light tying before we wed, but that practice ended right after the wedding ceremony. Feeling slightly let down, I continued with self-bondage and locking myself up (never exceeding 24 hours). She noticed on a couple of occasions (not during active play) and gave me the silent treatment afterward. It seemed like she never fully got over it, though we moved past it. Now, four children later, there’s little room for “hobbies.” We’ve both gained some weight, and she has recently begun a strict diet plan. I’m deciding to join her. However, I need an extra push. It took me ages to draft this note for her: “I wanted to discuss my weight loss with you… Since speaking it out loud isn’t my strong suit, I’ll write it down… You know men are driven by sex and orgasms. Well, I plan to use orgasm release as a tool/regulator for losing weight. It might sound odd, but I believe it could work for me. To assist with this (since my self-control is lacking), I put myself in my chastity device last night. You aren’t particularly fond of them, and I’ll keep you out if you prefer, unless you’d like to join in. My target: 5 lbs the first week, 4 lbs the second, then 3 lbs each subsequent week until I hit 185lbs. That is just 20 lbs off from Sunday’s starting point. Weigh-ins happen on Sunday mornings. If I meet my goal, I get to keep it off for the rest of that day (freedom). If I miss it, it comes off so I can shave, then goes right back on until next Sunday. I truly don’t want this to ruin your afternoon or irritate you too much. I wanted to be transparent so nothing is hidden from you. It would bother me if you caught sight of it in the bathroom or elsewhere without knowing why. If you have questions, concerns, or thoughts, please speak up. I’ll do my best to answer them. And if you’d like advice from ***** or others, that’s perfectly fine with me too. Who knows? If this succeeds, I might use it to quit smoking as well. Only time will tell, but I’m keen to try. If you prefer not to be involved, just let me know, and I’ll carry on alone. Apologies for the written approach; it’s simply easier for me. It took considerable courage to send this…” I pressed send, my heart pounding… “what have I done?” “Yes, I actually did it. Oh dear. What will her reaction be?” I am waiting patiently. This could go one of two ways: 1- she gives me the silent treatment again; or 2- she kicks me out completely. But, it was necessary… About ten minutes later, this reply arrived: “I did get annoyed when I started reading your note. However, I appreciate your honesty. You know my biggest pet peeve is dishonesty. No, I won’t be consulting with *****. And yes, right now I would prefer to stay out of it. I have plenty else on my mind, and this feels outside my comfort zone. Xoxo” Wow, totally surprising. So here I am, locked up for over 24 hours already. The key is secured in a time lock box that opens Sunday at 6am. No soda for two days now, and I’m going running after work tonight! Good luck to me!