Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Within kink communities, there are checklists that assist individuals in considering what they might enjoy experimenting with. They serve as a useful tool for locating “win-win” activities and discovering compatible play between two people. Interestingly, I recall someone mentioning that the greatest successes often occur when one person has a strong desire while the other remains neutral. In such cases, they can give it a shot; if they discover enjoyable ways to engage with it, the neutral party’s interest frequently rises due to all the fun involved, leading them to find mutually beneficial ways to play. HOWEVER, chastity play appears more complex and often leads to stress or resentment, among other issues. I would assume that checklists for men might include different items compared to those for keyholders? It seems couples who discover enjoyable methods of engaging with chastity do a better job at identifying win-wins. I suspect it is easier to determine what guys want to try as far as their preferences go. I believe it often takes the key holders longer to figure out how they wish to enjoy being in control and what aspects they would like to experiment with. And naturally, these interests tend to evolve over time through experience. So anyhow, I was curious if anyone has come across a “keyholder interest checklist” or similar tool that helps a key holder think about what they might want to play with or test next? The following is my first attempt at a draft list. I don’t believe it is perfect, comprehensive, or anything special. Naturally, an even better list would be created by actual keyholders. I tried scanning through the discussions here where keyholders share what they enjoy about chastity and drafted this list. Rate your interest in these ideas from 1 to 5: 5- Very appealing. Want to try 3- Neutral. May do if it excites & motivates my partner 1- Probably don’t want to do Keyholders I appreciate that he pays more attention to my needs and wishes. I enjoy the increased affection he shows me. I like how attentive and obedient he becomes. I notice him acting less selfish when in chastity. It turns me on knowing he is enduring chastity for my sake. Sometimes I feel like bossing him around a bit, and he has no choice but to comply. I experience contentment with my man while he is in chastity. I enjoy receiving more pampering and offers of help when he is locked up. I appreciate the display of dedication, similar to wearing a wedding ring. I love having control over his sexuality, orgasms, and erections. I like having general authority over him. I want him to feel sexually controlled by me. The apparent unfairness appeals to me; it feels hot. Chastity allows me to have all the sex I desire, in the EXACT WAYS I prefer. I enjoy how I can make him “sexually desperate.” I want him to anticipate my needs and keep learning how to please me. I appreciate having preset chastity obligations, like a schedule with specific tasks. I like that he feels owned by me. I enjoy getting him back into chastity after I am sexually satisfied. I’d like to train him to beg for certain things when I hint at them or prompt him. Having him in chastity makes me think about sex more frequently. It can be fun to control exactly how he might reach his orgasm. I enjoy teasing and building up toward an orgasm, but denying it most of the time. I find giving ruined orgasms enjoyable. (minimal touching after the point of no return) I appreciate that chastity gives me a chance to teach him certain things. I just don’t see why he needs to be able to touch his penis if we aren’t using it together for sex. I like how his mood and priorities shift while in chastity. I admire strong men, but it’s wonderful when they do my bidding. There are specific behavioral changes that chastity might help me achieve. I want him to focus on completing his share of the chores. I want him to contribute a bit more around the house. I want to be able to list specific chores and have him take them seriously. I appreciate some randomness in our play; specifically, it would be fun to try……… Chastity amusement makes it even more enjoyable for me. I’d like to experiment with…….. I think my ideal chastity man archetype might be….. (knight, house husband, etc.) Regarding duration, I prefer controlling everything myself, leaving him in the dark Regarding duration, I like setting a minimum start period, and then…….. Regarding duration, I enjoy surprising him by extending it when I feel like doing so. Regarding duration, I can always release him if I want his penis available to me. I don’t mind if he engages with chastity, as long as……………