Hi everyone. I want to become more involved in this community, but it’s tricky because my wife, whom I love deeply, considers our intimacy private and not meant for public viewing. We’ve been wed since we were nineteen and have three teenagers now, which makes finding uninterrupted moments a bit of a struggle; it used to be simpler when they were younger.
I’ve felt submissive as long as I can recall, first tying myself up around age eight, forty-one years ago.
Chastity has been a key interest since my early twenties and remains so. Finding a practical solution proved harder than expected, but that’s for another day. It still baffles me slightly: the thing that turns me on most is the desire to be denied an orgasm, yet thinking about it often triggers exactly that denial—it’s certainly a curious paradox.
Lately, I achieve chastity mostly without wearing a device; I’ve conditioned myself to behave as if one is in place. My wife holds control over all my orgasms, though sometimes I wish we had a clearer arrangement. It isn’t too difficult for me since we are quite active and it’s rare for me to exceed a week between releases, although my self-control record stands at three weeks.
I tend to lurk because often I have little to add to the great posts here, plus I’m not sure many would care what a 49-year-old sub male has to say. There seem to be far more of us compared to women who want to take charge in that dominant role. I’d guess there’s at least a 20:1 ratio, which is a pity lol.