Female led relationships discussion

Why is it every time I come up with a good thread, the forum is already white hot with posts! Damnit! I wish I’d had the chance to write this when I thought of it, but at the time, I only had my iphone handy and it’s going to be a longer post than that. If you’re planning to read, settle in. So I had this thought the other night, about how power exchange works. In this realm of chastity, it seems that so many mistresses have slaves who have domestic responsibilities. So while they’ve given up the right to choose when to orgasm, or how things play out in the bedroom, they’ve gained “power” over the responsibility of running the house. To provide an example (hopefully), although we share most chores equally (or at least try too), it seems to make sense to have one of us looking after the financial duties (bills etc). When we first got together, my wife enjoyed it, but her work role has been taking so much of her time that the responsibility of the bills fell to me. This is where it gets confusing.. If we’re in a D/s role, and she’s ruling and dominant over me, then me having control of her finances doesn’t make any sense at all! You can see how easy it would be for me to neglect to pay a bill and she’d be in all sorts of troubles. Who has the power? I know the answer for some is that I should live in fear of her punishments for any infraction. I’ve had to work hard on realising that negative reinforcement doesn’t achieve much, compared to positive reinforcement, and I have no desire to live in fear of my beloved. I choose to give her power, I’m not obliged to. I guess what I’m trying to work out is, how much responsibility can you give a sub/slave before you wind up loosing power to them? I hope you get good mileage out of these thoughts:)