Introductions discussion

I’m just an average guy who after some real life b.s. has decided to make some changes to his life including taking his fetishes more seriously. I had an old CB-Whatever that I bought years ago and used inconsistently but didn’t like the fact that I had to be released frequently to clean and got painful night time erections. I read somewhere that smaller devices can help with the latter, so I tried some cheaper devices to see if I could find something better and most of them just sucked for one reason or another. I’m currently using a Bon4 which I’m liking for the ease of cleaning factor. I’m also using a Chronovault as an alternative to leaving my key at work and unlocking myself on a Friday if I need cleaning. The one downside is I enjoy edging and I can’t really do that without frequent access to my keys. The problem with edging is that I end up wasting all of my time, batter my poor penis, and inevitably suffer a failure in willpower and bring myself to an orgasm I don’t want outside of that moment. I’d love to find a woman willing to take time from her day to tie me up and edge me unmercifully. That’s probably selfish of me to want since it is focused on my wants rather than what her needs might be. I’m hoping that more long term chastity might be a way of giving me those feelings of want and denial. Short and medium term (1 week to 1 month) chastity hasn’t made me feel much by itself. I just feel divorced from my sexuality. Yes, that’s kind of the point, but also not. At the very least, I’m more productive when I’m not wasting time masturbating or trying to have sex, so even if I don’t get everything I want, I get something I want. I suppose if someone has any tips on how to combine self edging with self enforced chastity, I’d be open to them. I’ve considered setting a hard time limit on the edging but I have a hard time denying myself the pleasure of going deeper and deeper into denial. The irony of that isn’t lost on me.