Introductions discussion

His perspective: A bit more than a year back I stumbled upon an article regarding male chastity and instantly felt my wife would be perfect for it. I brought up the idea, but being quite vanilla, she doubted my sanity!! Having grown up believing women should submit to their men, this whole chastity concept was…well strange!! After trying out several inexpensive cages, I found one suitable for wearing 2-3 days at a time, yet she wasn’t fully understanding the dynamic…so we paused. A few weeks later, she missed having that control so we gave it another go, and this time I purchased a Contender custom-fit stainless steel cage. She has realized that she is actually the one meant to hold power; she’s happier and gets things done her way. When she wants to please me, she gives what she desires rather than just doing what she feels obligated to do by making me wait not knowing when I’ll be released or allowed an orgasm, which drives me wild with longing. We aren’t interested in feminizing me, but she enjoys seeing me wear the panties she bought (anything is better than tighty whiteys!!!). Our bond has become MUCH stronger. My love and commitment continue to grow. For men considering this lifestyle, I say communication is the key factor. It might take time for a vanilla wife to see the advantages, so stay patient and talk it out. Her perspective: I agree with my husband on everything except one point. I quit because those cheap cages weren’t working well for him & I got frustrated trying them since he either developed soreness or smelled bad enough that he had to take it off every other day to wash or heal. After we found a model that worked comfortably for several days, I went on vacation alone for 10 days to test the situation. Bingo, we have a winner!!! It really is all about the cage itself. You truly need to shop around until you find one that suits your needs. Without his persistence in wanting this so much, we wouldn’t be here today!!! Yes, I am still getting used to assigning him chores. I’m accustomed to doing them myself, but I’m improving. It just takes time…lots of it. Initially I wanted to do this for him, but realized it’s not solely about him. I needed to step up and take control, which I now enjoy. Don’t give up, keep trying. In closing, I am happy knowing he is happy; my vanilla nature occasionally shows through, but we both must be happy to make our marriage strong & that is the most important thing to me.