My mistress is a big supporter of giving oral sex, yet most OD and femdom resources usually suggest that women shouldn’t be the ones performing it. I’d appreciate an explanation for this reasoning from anyone who knows why. Even though she enjoys doing it, she’s read that her actions empower me while diminishing her control with each stroke. To balance this out, she has decided to grip my penis firmly with both hands whenever she goes down on me now, exposing only the glans which she gently licks and sucks until I squirm. Then she either decides whether to lift my penis or go for a deep throat. Another method she’s created to restore the power dynamic during oral sex is giving me a quick flick in the testicles whenever I moan or make noise. Since I am quite vocal, this works very well; her clever smile right after she flicks me is delightful. Could anyone also suggest other things we might do to assist with this? Thanks.
First off - toss those books in the trash!:spider: I’ve read through them (practically every single one). I checked out all the websites. I got myself so worked up about what constitutes a "perfect" Mistress that I ended up depressed! I adore sex. Apparently, as a Mistress to a chastised man, I shouldn't be having sex with him. Well, forget that! He is my partner and I love him; if we don't have sex and maintain that intimate connection, our relationship will crumble... D/s is meant to ENHANCE your bond, not ruin it! Your Mistress ought never feel guilty about doing what she enjoys. She holds the reins and can do exactly as she pleases! So maybe you don't fit neatly into the standard category... who cares? Will the BDSM police come knocking?! I advise against stressing too much over what's written in those books... just write your own book!:character0180: Best wishes:butterfly:
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