While catching up on recent threads I noticed a recurring theme. How many of you actually feel this way, even if you try to convince yourself otherwise?
When reading as a woman – “My wife never had a huge amount of sexual desire (I always wanted more from her) If I get locked up now days and weeks can roll by without any interaction sexually and it can become pretty dam boring being in there on your own.” The thought that springs to mind is you stating your wife lacked strong libido. What makes you assume locking will boost hers? We know men get hornier, but why expect other changes? Isn’t this kink primarily for her benefit - provided you don’t grow weary?
Then we see – Last Thursday’s punishment was weak…… This Thursday, she just skipped it, nothing, zilch, nada. She had one orgasm over a week ago and nothing else in terms of any playtime, tease and denial or anything. I’m feeling locked and forgotten. I’m getting grumpy and losing my desire to serve.
This reveals that if your willingness to submit depends on the amount of t&d, playtime, or punishment you receive, then it isn’t truly for her sake. Your partner senses this and will soon resent the implication that while the kink is supposed to be hers, she must do it according to your preferences.
Finally – I was supposed to be punished but she let me cum a week early.
You complain about being allowed an early release when punishment was due. Could the act of letting you come be the punishment? Perhaps she engineered this outcome, tired of your manipulation and deciding to halt the game.
This is why it’s so difficult in relationships for partners to adopt that dominant persona we crave as a true mistress. When they offer to try, our minds are set; if reality doesn’t match our expectations, we throw our tantrums.
She lacks strictness, cruelty, rule enforcement, and punishment severity—complaints voiced repeatedly over the years. You ought to be grateful your partner is even attempting this role, which quickly becomes a 24/7 lifestyle rather than just an hour of dressing up in costume like other fetishes.
Women often spot manipulation early, and we rarely enjoy it. If you make us feel used or controlled, expect the game to end soon enough.