My wife is typically quite shy regarding sex, and I usually need to gently persuade her to go beyond standard missionary positions. When I suggest trying something new, we often have emotional reactions because she feels my wish for variety threatens the status quo. She has agreed to things in the past, but there are many more ideas she doesn’t want to even hear about.
We’ve been married for over twenty years now, and she has made great progress truly accepting my request for chastity play. At first, her feelings didn’t extend much to my solo sexual release, but she seems content knowing that while I am locked up, she is the only one providing for me sexually. Her enjoyment of this arrangement means I have been in a cage most of the time since we started.
Just when I think she has grown tired of it and forgotten about our agreement, she locks me back up, and the cycle begins anew.
Any proposal I make to her needs to be introduced slowly and carefully. After nine months of chastity play, I believe we have established a solid foundation. I have numerous ideas, such as trying pegging, having her focus seriously on edging while leaving me panting and frustrated in the cage, or rekindling earlier experiments with bondage… yet none of these seem to be happening.
What small steps might I suggest since she hasn’t come to a place like this forum for advice?