We all dream of permanent chastity where orgasms never happen again, and that idea is thrilling. After four years though, I’ve found I feel much better without them. Getting into bed with my wife makes my heart race; I get hot flashes, my penis twitches in anticipation, and my testicles tighten up as if ready for action. When denied for a long stretch, I actually feel more alive than after an orgasm. In fact, post-orgasm leaves me feeling bored and slightly downcast. Despite all this time having passed, I know I prefer no orgasm, yet I’m not ready to give them up completely. I’ve told my wife that 2-3 per year are enough for me, but lately I wonder if that’s true at all. My addiction is really to the anticipation of an orgasm more than the release itself.
Without hope of one, will the excitement fade? That’s why I agreed to keep a minimum of two orgasms yearly. I worry that without them, the thrill of not knowing what happens during sex with her will vanish. On the flip side, it takes me about a month to return to my current state of feeling good, and spending a month in a slump isn’t worth just 10 seconds of climax.
I’m torn, and I think many of us have been too. When teased or edged for so long we’re begging to cum, but once it happens, we kind of wish we hadn’t. At least that’s my experience; my wife has noticed she prefers denying me because she knows how I act afterward. She also sees that I thank her when she denies me, but not nearly as much when she lets me have a normal release. Women notice these details. So I’m still torn. I’m considering letting my wife decide if I get an orgasm based on her mood, though she’s warned me to be careful asking because she rarely feels like it.
How do you all feel about orgasms and their frequency? Do you ever wish your KH had denied you even when they allowed one? To enjoy the anticipation, I need something to look forward to, yet I dread its arrival. What should I do?