Hi all! My partner and I are exploring orgasm denial and chastity to add some excitement to our relationship. We’ve been together for nearly 14 years and want more variety than the “three times a week vanilla sex” we’re used to. Naturally, I’m not very dominant; he usually takes that role in our dynamic, but he’s encouraging me to take charge in bed and come up with fresh activities. He was definitely the one who sparked this shift.
About two years ago, he started talking about male chastity and orgasm denial, so we’ve been weaving it into our routine since then. Currently, we follow a schedule of 4 weeks on (allowing only ruined orgasms) followed by roughly 3 to 4 days off between cycles. We agreed to keep things comfortable: no pain or extreme methods like bondage, handcuff use, ice/heat play, etc., because neither of us is keen on those.
I feel a bit stuck now. I’ve searched online for various ways to ruin his orgasms, but it seems every site suggests the same concepts. I’m hoping to discover new techniques and perhaps more ideas that allow me (my side) to have even more fun with what we do. As mentioned, our bond is strong after almost 14 years together, so I don’t want suggestions that might make him resent my partner time or me. I just want ways to keep things spicy and surprise him occasionally. I’d love any of your thoughts! Thanks, E
