Hello all Chastity has held my interest for roughly a decade and a half, and at last, my wife understands the appeal and is ready to give it a try! My first attempt was about twelve years back when we began exploring some kinky activities. I dove right in (balls deep), strapped on the CB3000 I’d just purchased, and declared victory! She was visibly stunned, making all my efforts to introduce her to the kinkier side of life feel like they were for naught. She did a bit of online research herself but got spooked by some of the more intense methods, deciding it was one step too much and simply not her thing. I let things settle and used the CD when she traveled, then our children came along and our sex life took a backseat. About five years ago I tried to bring it up again with similar results, but soon after that, our intimacy improved, and we fell into regular D/S sessions, sometimes me leading, other times her. I started using the CD periodically again, though without a keyholder it wasn’t as enjoyable. Since I’ve had my piercing for about 15 years, I bought a PA5000, but found it didn’t stop orgasm very well and eventually broke apart. A year ago, I picked up a CB600S, which turned out to be the most comfortable device yet. It easily stayed locked through an entire weekend while my wife was away, and crucially, allowed me to sleep comfortably. I tweaked it slightly so it could lock onto my PA ring using a steel cable link I found online, making it possible to remain locked for several days with ease. Meanwhile, our play sessions have been improving steadily, and recently she’s really enjoyed tease & denial, whether directed at me, her, or both of us. When the kids stayed with their grandparents over the summer, we had a very sensual week, playing around and edging each other almost continuously. The previous weekend was an adult-only getaway where we shared lots of tender intimacy and passionate vanilla sex afterward, feeling closer than we have in ages. So yesterday I took another shot at suggesting we try some chastity play. After doing more research, I found this article online that explains the concept from a woman’s viewpoint.
I wrote an email detailing what I was proposing and, importantly, what I wasn’t asking for so as not to overwhelm her, inviting her to read it and consider. I sent it off and waited. A few hours later she popped into my office (since I work from home frequently) and said she’d received the message and now grasped the idea. She was willing to give it a go despite still feeling slightly repulsed by the physical devices themselves. So, I put on the CB600S in the bathroom and handed her the keys, agreeing to try it for a few days until our scheduled play date this Friday (the perks of working from home!) Here I am, one day into being locked and enjoying every moment. I slept well last night despite some ball burn; otherwise quite comfortable, though I’m in nearly constant arousal. I know she’s doing this out of love for me and is still a bit wary of the device itself, so these next few days will determine if this works long-term. I plan to take it slow while she adjusts, not pushing her into anything she doesn’t want, but I am very excited about what lies ahead. She mentioned this morning that she has work on Friday and can’t make our play date, so we agreed to move it to Saturday when the kids are at clubs. Not too disappointed for one more day of waiting. I ordered a Bon4M small last night, which arrives tomorrow since she noted she didn’t like the look of plastic CBs. Hopefully this metal version suits her better. Any advice on how to handle these early days would be greatly appreciated. Also any tips for Saturday? Should I keep the device on and wait for her to remove it? Should I ask for the keys and take it off first? She’s used to me taking charge, so should I continue doing that or be more submissive and let her lead?