Here is my bit to add to all the great discussions going on.
To give a quick background, My wife and I have dabbled in kink for quite some time and really enjoyed it during our early marriage. However, about four years ago life got hectic and we slowed down—actually stopped altogether—and things became somewhat routine. For roughly three years now, chastity has been on my mind. About two years back, I picked up a knock-off CB-3000 to test the waters. I’ve worn it intermittently since then, usually going for 3 or maybe 4 days at a time.
Six or seven months ago, after doing plenty of reading here and elsewhere, I brought up chastity with my wife, suggesting we try an FLR (Female Led Relationship). Since she is naturally dominant in our BDSM dynamic and I am the submissive one, I figured it wouldn’t be too much for her. I explained how it could work and what it would entail. She was intrigued and wanted to ponder it while doing her own research.
Months went by as we discussed it off and on. She often mentioned teasing me or even locking me up, but nothing concrete happened; there wasn’t even a hint of “let’s really do this” from her for quite some time.
Now here is where things stand. I had my birthday last week, and she asked what I wanted as a gift. We chatted, and I expressed that our sex life felt stale to me and hoped we could get back into play during the past weekend to spice things up. For two days, she teased about having some fun time together but still didn’t act on it. Just when I was losing hope, she surprised me with a few grope sessions and signaled for me to undress. She started giving me a BJ, then switched to using just her hand, stopping right as I began to moan. After I calmed down, she would start again, stop, and restart this cycle repeatedly. This went on for an hour and a half.
Then she looked at me and asked, “Do you want to beg to cum, or do you want to be locked up?” That was the moment! Now I had to make a choice. After reading many posts from all of you lovely people here, I realized that while it’s usually best not to decide during a tease-and-denial session, I did anyway. I told her to lock me up.
She discussed my decision with me further, asking if I was certain and what potential downsides or fears I might have. I explained that this is a big commitment for both of us. Her main concern throughout has been that I would paw at the cage and whine about being let out. Thanks to all the good advice here, I assured her that while it will happen occasionally, if she worries about it, we can make it a rule: if I paw or whine too much, she can extend my lock time or pull the plug entirely.
Once things settled into a more relaxed rhythm, we agreed on a trial period. After ten days, if everything is going well with this chastity lifestyle, I will be released so we can discuss where we are and what comes next.
So here I am, Day 1 of my 10-day lock-up as one happy sub. When our talk happens in 10 days, I plan to bring up getting a new CB.